quick review of the situation, I pay support based on order from2009;
ex and daughter(D) have a fight, cops come, ex kicks D out to live with me. Support to ex stops. 5 months with me and then returns to moms before college starts. (college is 15 mins from my house, 45 from hers). mom demands support start immediately. I ask for a couple months to get things straightened out. FRO needs new order to re-open our file. Ex refuses to make agreement with a mediator.
this week letter comes in the mail from ex's lawyer. support in arrears for 2 months as per order (D did return to her house 2 months ago). lawyer wants financials since 2009 for possible back pay. Ex files T4s since 2010 showing income no more than 11000/yr. (own business, mostly cash). Lawyer says that based on incomes, I am responsible of 89% of all college fees. Also ex stating I am refusing to contribute and pay support.
I have been paying on time all the time (16 yrs). have not refused anything and was waiting for order from court for FRO like usual. We have NEVER exchanged financials in 16 yrs other than letter of income from my employer when asked.
ex makes much more than claimed. Her common law and her live in a 480k house and he makes about 60-80k/yr. They just bought the house last year. ( I know his income doesn't matter, but come on... the math doesn't add up)
uncle has given a gift to D to help out with school (1-4k). OSAP was apparently applied for but denied. I can't see the application due to on line password. I use the estimator and it shows that a small amount available.
have ALWAYS been in Ds life and accessible to ex. she has never asked for financials or $$ in the past.(only to up support when I changed jobs and in 2009 when order changed. First order was in '97)
I have applied for a bursary through employer, received it. My benefits qualify for a tuition rebate. purchased school books on line at more than half the price.
I have conversations with ex recorded trying to come to get somesort of explanation on costs but am just simply met with "send a cheque".... can't afford a lawyer and was going to respond to the letter myself. I knew ex would go for money as soon as D went back so I have been able to save up the "arrears" and keep that aside and will continue.
Im lost..... going to ask for full financial disclosure on her part, the OSAP application. but to top it all off, lawyer says if I go to court my ex will seek legal fees.....
Is this seriously happening?? where to go from here? D has never gone without, we just helped her buy a car last year, she is on my insurance plan as it is much cheaper than exs and cell phone on my employee plan cuz it is much cheaper- daughter works and pays for these herself. she pays for most things herself. I know some be asking what I did to piss ex off, but I have no clue....... it's been 16 yrs............ I have never even asked to have my union dues accounted for or anything like that!
do I need to start filling anything? or just respond to the letter?
ex and daughter(D) have a fight, cops come, ex kicks D out to live with me. Support to ex stops. 5 months with me and then returns to moms before college starts. (college is 15 mins from my house, 45 from hers). mom demands support start immediately. I ask for a couple months to get things straightened out. FRO needs new order to re-open our file. Ex refuses to make agreement with a mediator.
this week letter comes in the mail from ex's lawyer. support in arrears for 2 months as per order (D did return to her house 2 months ago). lawyer wants financials since 2009 for possible back pay. Ex files T4s since 2010 showing income no more than 11000/yr. (own business, mostly cash). Lawyer says that based on incomes, I am responsible of 89% of all college fees. Also ex stating I am refusing to contribute and pay support.
I have been paying on time all the time (16 yrs). have not refused anything and was waiting for order from court for FRO like usual. We have NEVER exchanged financials in 16 yrs other than letter of income from my employer when asked.
ex makes much more than claimed. Her common law and her live in a 480k house and he makes about 60-80k/yr. They just bought the house last year. ( I know his income doesn't matter, but come on... the math doesn't add up)
uncle has given a gift to D to help out with school (1-4k). OSAP was apparently applied for but denied. I can't see the application due to on line password. I use the estimator and it shows that a small amount available.
have ALWAYS been in Ds life and accessible to ex. she has never asked for financials or $$ in the past.(only to up support when I changed jobs and in 2009 when order changed. First order was in '97)
I have applied for a bursary through employer, received it. My benefits qualify for a tuition rebate. purchased school books on line at more than half the price.
I have conversations with ex recorded trying to come to get somesort of explanation on costs but am just simply met with "send a cheque".... can't afford a lawyer and was going to respond to the letter myself. I knew ex would go for money as soon as D went back so I have been able to save up the "arrears" and keep that aside and will continue.
Im lost..... going to ask for full financial disclosure on her part, the OSAP application. but to top it all off, lawyer says if I go to court my ex will seek legal fees.....
Is this seriously happening?? where to go from here? D has never gone without, we just helped her buy a car last year, she is on my insurance plan as it is much cheaper than exs and cell phone on my employee plan cuz it is much cheaper- daughter works and pays for these herself. she pays for most things herself. I know some be asking what I did to piss ex off, but I have no clue....... it's been 16 yrs............ I have never even asked to have my union dues accounted for or anything like that!
do I need to start filling anything? or just respond to the letter?
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