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Old 04-21-2022, 01:16 PM
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I have joint custody of kids (grade 2 and 4). I approached ex about vaccinating kids before Christmas when it became available to them. She said she was not an anti-vaxxer but would rather 'wait and see' to see if there would be any outfall or news about negative impacts to children. I did not press, as I thought perhaps the government was going to mandate vaccination to return to school. That did not happen.

Both kids got Covid earlier this year during the omnicron wave. Now if asked about vaccinating kids, my ex downplays it saying that kids already got Covid and are therefore naturally immune. She is by no means a doctor. It is pretty evident she does not want to vaccinate kids, without flat out saying it. Personally, I think I would prefer vaccination to err on the side of caution, particularly now that things are fully open and its masks off. Neither kid likes wearing mask. I feel its playing russian roulette and would prefer a level of protection that the vaccine offers.

Any advice how to proceed? It was high conflict and remains high conflict.
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Old 04-21-2022, 01:28 PM
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Doctors are saying that you can get it again after having it and that natural immunity wanes faster than they thought.

Do you need her permission? Is there anything in your agreement about necessary vaccinations?

There have been a few threads about this on here. I believe the last court case was posted and it was a tread carefully kind of thing.
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Old 04-21-2022, 01:53 PM
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Thanks for the response. I have read the threads on the topic. Early on, there was a decision that 100% sided with vaccination. Now, the decisions pretty much leave it in the hands of the parents to decide.

We have joint custody and decisions regarding medical are to be made jointly. Agreement is silent on vaccines. All it says is that medical decisions are to be made jointly and both parents are to be consulted on such decisions. There is a dispute resolution clause in the agreement, where if we disagree, we must go to mediation. If mediation does not resolve disagreement, you can file in court.

Part of the issue is that my ex has not flat out said she disagrees. When approached, she said she wants to wait and see what happens with kids getting vaccinated, as she feared possible heart issues, etc. Now, when approached, she says that kids have both had covid and they have demonstrated they can fight it off. So she has not outright said she is against vaccine, she just dodges the question.

I would just hate for something to happen and the result be "You should have gotten your kids vaccinated!"
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:00 PM
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So flat out say, I want to get the kids vaccinated, do I have your agreement to do so. Once I have your yes I will book the appointment.

If she says no, outline you will be setting up mediation as per the dispute resolution class in your agreement. Or should she disagree to mediation, you will be filing a motion.

You have to also ask yourself how far you want to take this. Or if she doesnt give you an answer, if you will take that as an agreement.
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:12 PM
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what about setting up a virtual visit with the kids family doctor to talk about it?

it doesn't sound like she's attending FREEDOM! rallies- so, as you said, she's not vehemently anti-vax, but maybe she needs to get more information. And it sounds like if that info comes from you- it will not likely be well received.
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:22 PM
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Or - there's nothing stopping you from just getting them vaccinated. Just do it.
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:31 PM
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Or - there's nothing stopping you from just getting them vaccinated. Just do it.
It was a lengthy, high conflict court case where I fought hard for joint custody and 50/50 parenting. My ex is one of those who wanted me to have 38%... She still does not accept 50/50 and is constantly looking for any blemish on my part. I don't have any blemishes where I contravened our agreement. I'm trying to keep it that way :-)
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:33 PM
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It was a lengthy, high conflict court case where I fought hard for joint custody and 50/50 parenting. My ex is one of those who wanted me to have 38%... She still does not accept 50/50 and is constantly looking for any blemish on my part. I don't have any blemishes where I contravened our agreement. I'm trying to keep it that way :-)

She would need a material change in circumstances. Getting your kids vaccinated is not one.
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Old 04-21-2022, 02:36 PM
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That sounds more important....

Your agreement/order is silent on vaccinations. It would be assumed the kids have and will continue to get their vaccinations as needed. They don't care about orders or custody, and you don't need their physical health cards... just walk into any place and do it.

You're more worried about umbrellas and boots repayments instead of vaccinations?
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Old 04-21-2022, 04:34 PM
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You're more worried about umbrellas and boots repayments instead of vaccinations?
I would not conflate the two separate and distinct issues into one. My ex being absent on payment of any 'other' items is a totally separate issue than the issue raised in this thread regarding my ex's seeming unwillingness to vaccinate our 2 kids.

I want to do what's in the best interest of our kids, play by the rules set in our agreement, while not having it blow up in my face as she seems clearly unwilling to go the vaccination route.
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