I have a motion coming up.
I have now received their reply to my reply (they filed the motion).
The pure insanity of their numbers and contradictions is overwhelming.
They state that I owe significant support arrears. I'm not sure what numbers they use as they didn't state how they derived it, but I can't even guess at how they arrived at the arrears - even by considering irrational and unfair methods I come up short.
Recalculating over the past 6 years since separation and using our actual incomes for those years, I have in fact significantly overpaid support! I am not interested in getting my ex to pay me back - we did the best we could to determine the numbers, but in hindsight I overpaid.
However in general for my upcoming motion, I have spent countless hours getting all my numbers correct and backed by evidence and reason. They on the other hand make no sense.
My concern is that if I ask for nothing and they ask for a lot, the judge will award them something just because it will seem reasonable given our two positions.
My position is that I have put serious effort into determining what was fair and of no advantage to either person using actual numbers and guidelines, and their position has almost no basis in fact and contains irrational conclusions. I would like the judge to review it from that position, rather than simply picking a number between our two positions.
In fact, I think that I am being overly reasonable and a judge should determine that I should pay less than I am offering.
Is it risky to be reasonable and not ask for more than you want, especially when the other side is asking for over double that?
I have now received their reply to my reply (they filed the motion).
The pure insanity of their numbers and contradictions is overwhelming.
They state that I owe significant support arrears. I'm not sure what numbers they use as they didn't state how they derived it, but I can't even guess at how they arrived at the arrears - even by considering irrational and unfair methods I come up short.
Recalculating over the past 6 years since separation and using our actual incomes for those years, I have in fact significantly overpaid support! I am not interested in getting my ex to pay me back - we did the best we could to determine the numbers, but in hindsight I overpaid.
However in general for my upcoming motion, I have spent countless hours getting all my numbers correct and backed by evidence and reason. They on the other hand make no sense.
My concern is that if I ask for nothing and they ask for a lot, the judge will award them something just because it will seem reasonable given our two positions.
My position is that I have put serious effort into determining what was fair and of no advantage to either person using actual numbers and guidelines, and their position has almost no basis in fact and contains irrational conclusions. I would like the judge to review it from that position, rather than simply picking a number between our two positions.
In fact, I think that I am being overly reasonable and a judge should determine that I should pay less than I am offering.
Is it risky to be reasonable and not ask for more than you want, especially when the other side is asking for over double that?
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