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Old 12-19-2014, 08:29 AM
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Hiya Arabian!

You can understand my disjointed prose like LF32 can...it irritates most...lmao
(fuk the tea drinkers)

Everybody SINKS with LF32 with or without Sentence Structure

90 percent are on ignore ..it helps (for me)

I'm making it painfully obvious to LF32....trials the only option.

use to be the bobble heads for victims disagreed..they got squat now

I bet LF32 misses all that negative support he got

Here we are .....Here we are

Getting past the menopause judge ....will be interesting we got till March
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I'm making it painfully obvious to LF32....trials the only option.
The thought of a trial makes my head hurt. Prepping witnesses, etc. A lot of work when I just got a full time job. Lawyer predicts a 3 week trial with everything. 2 weeks of which will probably by just fighting OCL on the stand with CAS/endorsements/Police/judges in my corner). Still...OCL will come and make a day of hell for me.
If this things gong to trial .. I have to be mentally, physically and financially prepared.
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Old 12-19-2014, 11:05 AM
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Mr T is right, your best option is a trial. I don't see any way for you to obtain the result you want without it. It's hell no doubt because it's damn expensive, time consuming and there's no guarantee that you will succeed.

With a lying HC Ex like yours, what choice do you have? You're very well prepared and seem to have all your ducks in a row.
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Old 12-19-2014, 11:43 AM
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Blows my mind that legal aid will cough up taxpayers money to fund her circus. Not only does it blow my mind... also irks me that these funds could be helping a person in desperate need. Nope. Going to ex to play with.

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Old 12-19-2014, 11:45 AM
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Your Lawyer probably said that because of the SC Judge

SC's Judges job according to the "RULES" was to narrow the issues between parties

Instead she inflamed the matter

Goldilocks was expecting the HAMMER in Court that day but the SC Judge threw her creampuffs

The Motion Judge got it right.....he put the parties on a path to settlement

ALL the SC judge had to do was rubber stamp the Motion Judges determination and put pressure on Goldilocks to GET ALONG

Goldilocks got the wrong message and left Court to cause more grief

Nobodies taking the access you have now away

SO what's the point of the slander and what's the point of the OCL findings...all of it was tossed and OCL was ignored

Goldilocks is making sure JOINT won't work but that's where it's headed

Sole Custody is a strong word....(but a option when faced with a high conflict ex)

Primary Parent and joint. IS the best case scenario. Which I see LF32 becoming the primary parent.

OF course because of the SC judge he has to sit through months of B.S from Goldilocks and stick handle through it.

and yes the SC judge just pulled a few thousand more out of LF32's wallet, infuriating..... you bet.
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Old 12-19-2014, 11:54 AM
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Ex wouldn't even pick up D3 at 7:30 am (I work at 8). I had to hire a sitter for half an hour in the morning as I leave at 7:30. Lol. The sitter is our neighbour who D3 loves.

Just goes to show. No flexibility with her either. I bet she'll bee seeking flexibility in x-mas schedule though.

I get her Wednesday from noon until Thursday morning and judge ordered I also get x-mas day from noon until boxing day at 5. Well x-mas eve falls on a wed. So I'll drop her off from 8 am until noon x-mas day at ex's. Keep D3 from noon x'mas day until the following Monday at 8 am. Yep...falls on my weekend also.

I wonder how this will play out.
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Old 12-19-2014, 12:23 PM
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To me...perfect time for a one liner in the communication box on "inflexibility"

...would you consider being a little flexible around my work schedule......

and the flip side you can offer to be flexible (while grinding your teeth) and offer stuff around that special day called XMAS

you score 2 points!
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To me...perfect time for a one liner in the communication box on "inflexibility"

...would you consider being a little flexible around my work schedule......

and the flip side you can offer to be flexible (while grinding your teeth) and offer stuff around that special day called XMAS

you score 2 points!
She claims it's too early for D3 to be up. Says she's used to sleeping now until 10:00. D3 is bright eyed and bushy tailed in the early mornings...full of hugs and smiles.

Given my x-mas schedule above .. what would you offer her this x-mas if you were on my position? Perhaps x-mas eve until x-mas day at noon? Stating that I'd like x'mas eve next year

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Old 12-19-2014, 01:11 PM
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I do hope you have something in writing where ex (the unemployed welfare bum) states she (ex) doesn't get up before 10AM - good for your arsenal.
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Old 12-19-2014, 02:23 PM
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She claims it's too early for D3 to be up. Says she's used to sleeping now until 10:00. D3 is bright eyed and bushy tailed in the early mornings...full of hugs and smiles.

Given my x-mas schedule above .. what would you offer her this x-mas if you were on my position? Perhaps x-mas eve until x-mas day at noon? Stating that I'd like x'mas eve next year
If she won't budge on half an hour, why should you budge on anything? You have no idea what's going to be going on next year - you aren't in a position to negotiate with it now. Having so much of Christmas this year, even if it means D3 gets exchanged twice for a four-hour span with your ex, is make-up for how much time with her you missed earlier this year, like Easter, Father's Day, your birthday, etc. You fought very hard for this time - don't give it up. I know you want to show that you can be flexible, but you need this holiday time with D3, and to demonstrate how important that time is to you.

The only offer I would make is that your ex could pick up D3 at 7:30am Christmas Day instead of 8am. When you suggest it, be sure to mention that you have never had problems waking her up at that hour, and comment that she's plenty rested and energetic because her bedtime at your house is X o'clock. When your ex responds, you can find out how flexible she's willing to be about mornings in general.

Something to keep in mind though - if you do get your ex to do pickups at 7:30am to accommodate your work schedule, have a backup plan for when she's late, so you can still get to work on time. All this just goes to demonstrate that doing exchanges through school would work better for the two of you. One of you drops off in the morning, the other picks up in the afternoon and you don't have to interact or rely on the other person. If your ex is going to demonstrate inflexibility, you have to propose solutions that work around this.
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Old 12-19-2014, 02:37 PM
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I know you are trying to be flexible...but if the judge gave you that Xmas time enjoy it with D3. Just can't imagine Ex picking her up and bringing her back hours later....but I would offer her the 7:30 and if she can do it for Xmas she can do it ongoing.
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