Hi All - I stumbled upon your forum after unsuccessfully doing a search to find information for my friend and his family, I hope you can help!
Here is the situation:
Latino Couple, married about 12-13years ago now in their country of origin. He came here much younger and is now a Citizen, she is still Landed Immigrant Status. They have one child who is 8years old now.
We suspect and have suspected that the wife has been mentally ill, possibly bipolar and after the baby was born things did get worse, but we are finding out now how serious this is getting.
The husband by nature is a sweet person, hates fighting, wants peace and quiet, which unfortunately the wife uses against him when something doesn't go her way. We knew she picked on him a bit, but found out that she has physically abused him before, and still does now. We do not believe that she has physically abused the child, however her temper and actions towards both her husband and child are mentally abusive, for sure.
She has JUST been to see a psychiatrist and was given a prescription for medication which she seems to have no interest in starting, also she has expressed that she plans on taking the new medication along with her previous ones, which I believe were given by the GP because she could not sleep, also she has or had been on antidepressants ... also GP prescribed.
This man is very concerned about the welfare of his child, he is very afraid to confront her or upset her in any way by taking any sort of action, but believes it is in the best interest for himself and his child to not remain with this woman, however is very afraid that if the court system gets involved the child will be given to the mother which could be catastrophic - this is a bad position to be in, and it is so very hard to find out how the legal system might help in this case, he cannot make any move until he is sure the backlash will not be on the child in any way - the child has just told the father about two days after the mother had a screaming episode about some homework issue, that he is 'still afraid' of his mother yelling at him ... what to do?
Thanks for any insight - oh to add, the wife has told people in past that she believes in this country the wife can divorce and 'take everything' from the man, and also she has said she would lie to police and say HE hit HER and take the child away from him permanently ... how does a man protect himself and his child from this sort of thing?
Jenny
Here is the situation:
Latino Couple, married about 12-13years ago now in their country of origin. He came here much younger and is now a Citizen, she is still Landed Immigrant Status. They have one child who is 8years old now.
We suspect and have suspected that the wife has been mentally ill, possibly bipolar and after the baby was born things did get worse, but we are finding out now how serious this is getting.
The husband by nature is a sweet person, hates fighting, wants peace and quiet, which unfortunately the wife uses against him when something doesn't go her way. We knew she picked on him a bit, but found out that she has physically abused him before, and still does now. We do not believe that she has physically abused the child, however her temper and actions towards both her husband and child are mentally abusive, for sure.
She has JUST been to see a psychiatrist and was given a prescription for medication which she seems to have no interest in starting, also she has expressed that she plans on taking the new medication along with her previous ones, which I believe were given by the GP because she could not sleep, also she has or had been on antidepressants ... also GP prescribed.
This man is very concerned about the welfare of his child, he is very afraid to confront her or upset her in any way by taking any sort of action, but believes it is in the best interest for himself and his child to not remain with this woman, however is very afraid that if the court system gets involved the child will be given to the mother which could be catastrophic - this is a bad position to be in, and it is so very hard to find out how the legal system might help in this case, he cannot make any move until he is sure the backlash will not be on the child in any way - the child has just told the father about two days after the mother had a screaming episode about some homework issue, that he is 'still afraid' of his mother yelling at him ... what to do?
Thanks for any insight - oh to add, the wife has told people in past that she believes in this country the wife can divorce and 'take everything' from the man, and also she has said she would lie to police and say HE hit HER and take the child away from him permanently ... how does a man protect himself and his child from this sort of thing?
Jenny
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