Hello everyone..
So here is my story. I am 23 and I am a student. I got married in 2008 over the phone, which is apparently legal in my parents’ country. I didn’t want to get married as I wasn’t ready and I knew I was too young to be married. But my parents talked me into it and sort of emotionally blackmailed me to get married. I am a Canadian citizen and the person I am married to is a british citizen. He came to Canada in 2009 and just to make sure that his immigration process doesn’t get complicated, him and my parents made me marry him again at the City Hall.
He stayed here for 6 months while I attended school full time and worked 2 jobs. We decided not to apply for his residency right away as after paying all the bills and rent I couldn’t afford it. He would stay home and play video games all day all and I worked and went to school. I had to cook and clean after work while he just rested. Eventually he asked him to go back to UK so he would at least work there as I wanted to live here with peace and finish school. Just the thought of living with him made me depressed and sick. We have nothing in common, there is a big age difference between us and he is not serious about life or future. He is a good guy and I have nothing against him. But I am unhappy and I have been unhappy since the day I made the mistake of marrying him. I have told him millions of times that this is not working and I don’t love him. We are not happy, we never were, never will be. He completely ignores me and is in denial. I have finally decided to stand up for myself and end this. My family and friends doesn’t agree with my decision so I am on my own. I would really appreciate any kind of advice you guys might have for me. I can’t live like this anymore. I suffer from severe depression and panic attacks and I feel suffocated every single moment.
He lives in UK now and I live in Ontario. I have met him twice since 2009 for about a week or so. the last time I met him was in early 2011. How should I approach this? I want to get a divorce as soon as possible. I don’t have any asset and I don’t care about his. There are no children in the picture. All I want is to be free and nothing else. Am I going to need a lawyer? Am I going to need the marriage papers that I got from the City Hall when we got married here, because I don’t know if he took them with him to UK. I am a student with a part time job so I am not sure how am I going to afford a lawyer. And as it is going to be an international divorce I don’t know what should be my first step. He said he’ll sign the papers but I doubt it. If I go to City Hall would they help me?
I see girls my age happy, living their lives to the fullest, enjoying being 20 something. And here I am dealing with an issue like this. I want to be happy. I know I won’t get the last 4 years of my life back but I want at least the rest of my life back. Please help me.
So here is my story. I am 23 and I am a student. I got married in 2008 over the phone, which is apparently legal in my parents’ country. I didn’t want to get married as I wasn’t ready and I knew I was too young to be married. But my parents talked me into it and sort of emotionally blackmailed me to get married. I am a Canadian citizen and the person I am married to is a british citizen. He came to Canada in 2009 and just to make sure that his immigration process doesn’t get complicated, him and my parents made me marry him again at the City Hall.
He stayed here for 6 months while I attended school full time and worked 2 jobs. We decided not to apply for his residency right away as after paying all the bills and rent I couldn’t afford it. He would stay home and play video games all day all and I worked and went to school. I had to cook and clean after work while he just rested. Eventually he asked him to go back to UK so he would at least work there as I wanted to live here with peace and finish school. Just the thought of living with him made me depressed and sick. We have nothing in common, there is a big age difference between us and he is not serious about life or future. He is a good guy and I have nothing against him. But I am unhappy and I have been unhappy since the day I made the mistake of marrying him. I have told him millions of times that this is not working and I don’t love him. We are not happy, we never were, never will be. He completely ignores me and is in denial. I have finally decided to stand up for myself and end this. My family and friends doesn’t agree with my decision so I am on my own. I would really appreciate any kind of advice you guys might have for me. I can’t live like this anymore. I suffer from severe depression and panic attacks and I feel suffocated every single moment.
He lives in UK now and I live in Ontario. I have met him twice since 2009 for about a week or so. the last time I met him was in early 2011. How should I approach this? I want to get a divorce as soon as possible. I don’t have any asset and I don’t care about his. There are no children in the picture. All I want is to be free and nothing else. Am I going to need a lawyer? Am I going to need the marriage papers that I got from the City Hall when we got married here, because I don’t know if he took them with him to UK. I am a student with a part time job so I am not sure how am I going to afford a lawyer. And as it is going to be an international divorce I don’t know what should be my first step. He said he’ll sign the papers but I doubt it. If I go to City Hall would they help me?
I see girls my age happy, living their lives to the fullest, enjoying being 20 something. And here I am dealing with an issue like this. I want to be happy. I know I won’t get the last 4 years of my life back but I want at least the rest of my life back. Please help me.
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