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brief details:
cohabitate 6 years, 4 and 6 year old. I'm a physician and she is a registered nurse that is too lazy to work.
My soon to be ex-wife and I separated (technically) on September 1st. The background is that a few weeks prior my brother was diagnosed with advanced cancer which was her breaking point. A few weeks later, she went to a lawyer and tried doing a rule 14 asking for exclusive everything. Her claim was that I am abusive (when in fact she was physically and verbally towards me but thats a different story). It quickly got squashed and we have a without prejudice nesting agreement for our 6 and 4 year old and I would have to fund things as I normally do. Fortunately our house is sold and I will be renting space from my parents after the closing date.
I mentioned technically september 1st and the reason for this is that even though the rule 14 was middle of month she wrote the date as the 1st.
From September 1 to mid October, she went on a crazy spending spree to a tune of 25k. Obviously she will be accountable for this. Expenses include crazy cash withdrawals and random checks to her mom. It got so bad that Mastercard had to shut down our credit card altogether bc she was that out of control.
Recently we are in money trouble again. We basically live off of debit.
So now getting to my question.
A few days ago, she purchased groceries. This shows up on my bank account as Zehrs for 140 dollars. I do not trust her and found that she left that receipt in a grocery bag under the sink. I recovered the receipt and it shows a $40 cash back. This is obviously sketchy as it disguises what would be her expense as a shared expense and who knows how many times this has been done.
We have not gone to case conference yet.
Has anyone seen this type of behaviour and while $40 is peanuts what can I expect out of this shady behaviour (this would be among so many other things)
thanks for your time
brief details:
cohabitate 6 years, 4 and 6 year old. I'm a physician and she is a registered nurse that is too lazy to work.
My soon to be ex-wife and I separated (technically) on September 1st. The background is that a few weeks prior my brother was diagnosed with advanced cancer which was her breaking point. A few weeks later, she went to a lawyer and tried doing a rule 14 asking for exclusive everything. Her claim was that I am abusive (when in fact she was physically and verbally towards me but thats a different story). It quickly got squashed and we have a without prejudice nesting agreement for our 6 and 4 year old and I would have to fund things as I normally do. Fortunately our house is sold and I will be renting space from my parents after the closing date.
I mentioned technically september 1st and the reason for this is that even though the rule 14 was middle of month she wrote the date as the 1st.
From September 1 to mid October, she went on a crazy spending spree to a tune of 25k. Obviously she will be accountable for this. Expenses include crazy cash withdrawals and random checks to her mom. It got so bad that Mastercard had to shut down our credit card altogether bc she was that out of control.
Recently we are in money trouble again. We basically live off of debit.
So now getting to my question.
A few days ago, she purchased groceries. This shows up on my bank account as Zehrs for 140 dollars. I do not trust her and found that she left that receipt in a grocery bag under the sink. I recovered the receipt and it shows a $40 cash back. This is obviously sketchy as it disguises what would be her expense as a shared expense and who knows how many times this has been done.
We have not gone to case conference yet.
Has anyone seen this type of behaviour and while $40 is peanuts what can I expect out of this shady behaviour (this would be among so many other things)
thanks for your time
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