My ex has done 1 offer to me.
He's not even offering on the table on SSAG for CS or SS, he wants more than 50% equalization, refuses to offer his employer's benefits to me and is only offering 2 yrs of SS despite our long term marriage of 20 years and me raising our kids as a SAHM. I can't find a job and now I'm at school, in my 50s.
I helped put him through school so he now earns a good income in a very employable field. I contributed substantially through my own personal money by putting over $200,000 in to paying off our mortgage, our 2 substantial car loans etc. so I could stay home and raise the children.
He's been underpaying me support for months now. Plus he now owes me $5000+ for his debts from the joint account run up after our split and refuses to pay me back. He's offering to pay back less than half of that even though they are blatantly his debts (car payments and his credit card, etc.)
If I am patient and we have the case conference (3+ months away), will any good come to me for being patient? What might happen there?
Also, what can't happen there?
Interestingly, the ex has taken me to court which I can only assume was a gimmick to take his low ball offer since I was personally served with the papers on the same day as his low ball offer. I know he doesn't want to be in court as 1) he says that he can't afford it and 2) he's terrified of FRO. Your thoughts on that are welcome too.
What do you think of this whole situation?
I have done 1 good offer months ago. His response was to try his best to get our teenage kids to stay more than 50% with him.
Would going to mediation help at all here? He doesn't seem to be bargaining in good faith and I have avoided it because he's an abusive bully.
He's not self-represented even though he acts like he is...he writes up the things from his lawyer including the Application and Offer. What's up with a lawyer who admittedly lets his client do that?
None of the offer correspondence was Without Prejudice.
I have a lawyer but I'm glad to get any of your own comments and insights, thanks
He's not even offering on the table on SSAG for CS or SS, he wants more than 50% equalization, refuses to offer his employer's benefits to me and is only offering 2 yrs of SS despite our long term marriage of 20 years and me raising our kids as a SAHM. I can't find a job and now I'm at school, in my 50s.
I helped put him through school so he now earns a good income in a very employable field. I contributed substantially through my own personal money by putting over $200,000 in to paying off our mortgage, our 2 substantial car loans etc. so I could stay home and raise the children.
He's been underpaying me support for months now. Plus he now owes me $5000+ for his debts from the joint account run up after our split and refuses to pay me back. He's offering to pay back less than half of that even though they are blatantly his debts (car payments and his credit card, etc.)
If I am patient and we have the case conference (3+ months away), will any good come to me for being patient? What might happen there?
Also, what can't happen there?
Interestingly, the ex has taken me to court which I can only assume was a gimmick to take his low ball offer since I was personally served with the papers on the same day as his low ball offer. I know he doesn't want to be in court as 1) he says that he can't afford it and 2) he's terrified of FRO. Your thoughts on that are welcome too.
What do you think of this whole situation?
I have done 1 good offer months ago. His response was to try his best to get our teenage kids to stay more than 50% with him.
Would going to mediation help at all here? He doesn't seem to be bargaining in good faith and I have avoided it because he's an abusive bully.
He's not self-represented even though he acts like he is...he writes up the things from his lawyer including the Application and Offer. What's up with a lawyer who admittedly lets his client do that?
None of the offer correspondence was Without Prejudice.
I have a lawyer but I'm glad to get any of your own comments and insights, thanks
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