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  • On the outside looking in.....

    I went to college once finished high school, worked during my college years to pay for my own education...got a great job in the federal government, moved around as part of my duties, good salary, great pension, benefits etc.

    Then I fell in love with a woman with no education or work history, got married, had two amazing children. Then infidelity occurs. I forgive. Then infidelity occurs again...only this time I am told to move out of the house I built with my own two hands. I still loved this woman...

    We settled with I paying her 50% of my salary, $150K from my pension and all the equity in the house. She has said she will not need to work when her boyfriend moves into the house. She has been fired from 2 jobs in 3 months and is now claiming she can not work ever due to an injury.

    Today I drove by my old home to talk with my ex....only to find her boyfriend standing in the window of the home I built, while my two children jumped around the front yard. Then I realized that he took my wife, took my house, took my money and has my kids.....

    AND HOW IS THIS LEGAL???? I want a socialist feminist to answer this question!!!

  • #2
    It's not fair.

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    • #3
      AND HOW IS THIS LEGAL???? !!!
      Let us find out...

      Originally posted by Newfie76 View Post
      We settled with I paying her 50% of my salary, $150K from my pension and all the equity in the house.
      You agreed to it. Therefore, it is legal.

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      • #4
        Well...I guess your supportive of those that work hard for their money lose everything to the point that they can not even buy clothing for their own children. All so that a lazy women can live like a queen....

        No I did not agree to it!!! I was forced to sign the papers as I was threatened with legal aid against me. She gets free lawyers while I get a bill for $60K. I signed with a $60K revolver put to my head by my ex-wife.

        So I ask again....WHY IS THIS LEGAL??? Why are so many women allowed to use the system for their own personal gain? Anyone ever compare the statistics on the mental heath of divorced men vs divorced women? Big difference...worth the time to google it.

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        • #5
          It isn't fair, but it's legal. You signed. You agreed.

          This is currently legal because there aren't enough male socialist feminists. Give it a few more generations and there shouldn't be many women with no education or work history for lovestruck fools like you to marry.

          You vowed in a church (presumably) that you would look after this lazy woman for the rest of your life. You are being held to that. Her actions are nearly irrelevant in the eyes of the law.

          You could have self-represented yourself in court. You chose to sign those papers to save $60k. Are you finding it's no longer worth it? Did you fight for 50-50 custody of your children? A socialist feminist would be surprised you didn't. A socialist feminist judge would have encouraged 50-50 with reasonable offset CS and as little SS as required, if any.

          You still have recourse though. I assume you're paying SS as well as CS? After a year of her boyfriend living with her, look into having an income imputed to her. Also see what you can do to increase the time you spend with your children. They deserve to see a hardworking parent as a role model instead of just the lazy one.

          I think you are pissed off at the system because it's harder to be pissed off at yourself for bending over and signing your wife's agreement. Now, take that anger, and devote it to working with what you've got instead of whining about what you didn't get.

          Of course, it's still complete immoral stupidity that most legal battles are won by the rich over the poor, and that the system created to offset that (Legal Aid) just made it so that the completely broke also triumph over the poor.

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          • #6
            Interested to know who cheated on who. Sounds like she cheated on you first and then you did. Sorry but correct me if I'm wrong.

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            • #7
              Not sure how you're getting that out of the post at all, it's pretty clear.

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              • #8
                whoa

                Originally posted by blinkandimgone View Post
                Not sure how you're getting that out of the post at all, it's pretty clear.
                So she cheats the second time and wants the guy to move out? You gotta be kidding me . . .

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                • #9
                  Thus the point of the original post.

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                  • #10
                    Legal Aid Gives You Wings!

                    Originally posted by Newfie76 View Post
                    No I did not agree to it!!! I was forced to sign the papers as I was threatened with legal aid against me. She gets free lawyers while I get a bill for $60K. I signed with a $60K revolver put to my head by my ex-wife.
                    Legal Aid gives you wings. I dealt with it .. WorkingDad dealt with it. In fact WD coined the phrase "Legal Aid Gives You Wings" and the judge used it often in the case notes. Look him up, he's a member here.

                    I STILL have a sour taste in my mouth about my ex's rampage with Legal Aid. It truly is disgusting what they do for some (not all).

                    Just self-rep and wait their antics out, research, study FLA's/Caselaw and whoop their sorry ass' in court. Most scummy Legal Aid lawyer's have multiple cases and simply delay and cause conflict to force the OP to bow down. Dont bow down.

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                    • #11
                      Self-representing is a viable option even against a legal aid funded lawyer. Did you do any research before you signed your agreement? Did you come here and learn from ALL the experienced and intelligent advice that is FREE on this site?

                      Court has little to do with what is "fair", it's more about what is feasible. You invest time and energy into the things that you value, if you didn't do that then the outcome of your divorce settlement wasn't a top priority.

                      Sorry mate, it has happened to many and will happen to many more until we learn that our life is best managed by our own hands.

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                      • #12
                        PROUD social feminist and behaviour like this makes me sick from any gender.

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