In March my ex and I had a bit of a run in while I was picking up my son. He was about to turn 2 and we were to begin extending my access, including overnight visits. She came out of the house that day already aggravated, started railing on me about what a terrible person I was and a lousy father, that she would forgo her child support if I gave up my access - blah, blah. All I did was start to cry (I know!). I didn't yell back or engage her at all. She went back in the house. I was so shaken I sat their crying and pounding the steering wheel in frustration. I was so shaken I couldn't even drive off - although I should have. Well, long story short she called and said I couldn't see my son anymore. A week later I got a letter from her lawyer saying she had concerns about my mental state and the possibility I might be on drugs. She said I was hostile and I would only be allowed supervised visitation with my parents. There was also reference to the CAS - so I assumed she contacted them.
I have tried to resolve this with her to no avail. I have asked her to go to a mediator - she says it won't make a difference. She says it has to be done through our lawyers - which means going to court. I don't have much money and I'm afraid even if my unsupervised access is restored by the courts she will just continue to put that restriction on me again - sending me back to court.
That is the background - well some of it. My questions are:
Does supervised access need to be court ordered? Can she legally just decide that on her own? He said, she said? No one contacted me to get my side of the story.
If the court determines supervision is not necessary can she insist on supervision again down the road?
I do get to see my son with my parents so that's better than nothing. Obviously the extended access is not happening. Any other feedback or suggestions would be appreciated.
I have tried to resolve this with her to no avail. I have asked her to go to a mediator - she says it won't make a difference. She says it has to be done through our lawyers - which means going to court. I don't have much money and I'm afraid even if my unsupervised access is restored by the courts she will just continue to put that restriction on me again - sending me back to court.
That is the background - well some of it. My questions are:
Does supervised access need to be court ordered? Can she legally just decide that on her own? He said, she said? No one contacted me to get my side of the story.
If the court determines supervision is not necessary can she insist on supervision again down the road?
I do get to see my son with my parents so that's better than nothing. Obviously the extended access is not happening. Any other feedback or suggestions would be appreciated.
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