What would you do ?

[AlexLitty]

Then he should be fighting to have an income imputed to her. If she is a family doctor a judge will not sit by and accept her not working especially in the environment Canada is in.

Ohh yes, go to courts and see how they cry citing childrens needs for every argument in .New sob story every time ...
" I dont want the $$$ for myself ( I dont eat money ) , I dont want the home for mself( The kids live there ROFL) , I dont want a Mercedes for myself(Its for kids safety, a Honda is unsafe ROFL ) , I dont want a paid vacation for myself ,it is because I can rejuvenate myself to take better care of myself , I cannot work because it stresses me out and I cannot be a good parent when I am tired . "

Lol , once the kids needs are out in front , the court judges dont have a say .

ROFL

[Islandmom]

AlexLitty - your posts make me nauseated.

You’re going for 100% custody? Why would you choose to keep the children from their mother?

I have just read through all of your posts on here. You should be ashamed of yourself.

[rockscan]

Ohh yes, go to courts and see how they cry citing childrens needs for every argument in .New sob story every time ...
" I dont want the $$$ for myself ( I dont eat money ) , I dont want the home for mself( The kids live there ROFL) , I dont want a Mercedes for myself(Its for kids safety, a Honda is unsafe ROFL ) , I dont want a paid vacation for myself ,it is because I can rejuvenate myself to take better care of myself , I cannot work because it stresses me out and I cannot be a good parent when I am tired . "

Lol , once the kids needs are out in front , the court judges dont have a say .

ROFL

Wow.

You really need to work on your resentment towards your ex. You married her, you built a life where she had expectations and now she has a desire to keep a certain set lifestyle. You share the blame for this and I have a strong feeling the blame for the breakdown of the marriage. Quit playing to victim and own your share of the breakdown.

[AlexLitty]

AlexLitty - your posts make me nauseated.

You’re going for 100% custody? Why would you choose to keep the children from their mother?

I have just read through all of your posts on here. You should be ashamed of yourself.

Why would the children choose not to stay with their mother with not wanting to go back when they come visit me . This is the exact gender bias we see in courts . Fathers are Toxic and mothers are primary loving caregivers . I seek 100% custody but nowehere I did deny supervised visitation rights to my ex-spouse .
Fathers need to be ashamed of themseleves and mothers can have their gravy trains on the system pushing children in the front .

[AlexLitty]

Wow.

You really need to work on your resentment towards your ex. You married her, you built a life where she had expectations and now she has a desire to keep a certain set lifestyle. You share the blame for this and I have a strong feeling the blame for the breakdown of the marriage. Quit playing to victim and own your share of the breakdown.

Rockscan,you are correct ,its my fault to have trusted her too much and not asked for a pre nuptial . I own up to my faults and lessons learnt ,which wont be repeated when I marry my girlfriend .

[rockscan]

Rockscan,you are correct ,its my fault to have trusted her too much and not asked for a pre nuptial . I own up to my faults and lessons learnt ,which wont be repeated when I marry my girlfriend .

Who will probably take your money too.

If you aren’t an asshole most kids do see their parents back and forth. If you don’t want your kids to hate you, take a different path than the one you keep spouting about.

You’re not a victim. Get over yourself.

[respondent]

Who will probably take your money too.

If you aren�t an asshole most kids do see their parents back and forth. If you don�t want your kids to hate you, take a different path than the one you keep spouting about.

You�re not a victim. Get over yourself.

If his wife didn't quit her job when she started the divorce, she'd be the one paying SS, as she had higher qualification than him and capable of earning more than him, so to extent he is a victim. Another aspect many don't realize is S7 - when your ex claims to be unemployed, you paying 90% of that hockey, braces, etc. etc. There is no cap for S7, and judges have very little sympathy when your net income less than S7 + CS - on the line 150 you look like a high earner.

[StillPaying]

If his wife didn't quit her job when she started the divorce, ...

You keep making stuff up - not sure why.
They've been separated for 2 years and ex has been "lazy", not completing her license for 5 years. There's no what-ifs or maybes. He was ok with it until he found out the ss consequences. And either ex owns shares/stocks/etc which would continue to add in value or she doesn't and it's DOS.

[AlexLitty]

You keep making stuff up - not sure why.
They've been separated for 2 years and ex has been "lazy", not completing her license for 5 years. There's no what-ifs or maybes. He was ok with it until he found out the ss consequences. And either ex owns shares/stocks/etc which would continue to add in value or she doesn't and it's DOS.

Ex quit her job midway in marriage(she had a job in Dubai) and refused to be gainfully employed inspite of all opportuntities and staying 1 year away from kids to attend a coaching camp paid by me . I was never okay with it . My lawyers have pushed to get icome imputed to her as a trainee doc for 2 yrs and after that full income of a family doc.

[Kkc]

if she is fully certified abroad all she has to do I believe is write her canadian exams
depending on the country, she may actually have to repeat residency here

I would suggest going onto the College of Physicians website and figure it out from there

if she was a family doctor, the CFPC (collge of family docs)
if it was a specialist, Royal College of Physicians of Canada

What I did for nursing was learn the license processs inside and out and when I can demonstrate that I know far more than she does it helps

Ex quit her job midway in marriage(she had a job in Dubai) and refused to be gainfully employed inspite of all opportuntities and staying 1 year away from kids to attend a coaching camp paid by me . I was never okay with it . My lawyers have pushed to get icome imputed to her as a trainee doc for 2 yrs and after that full income of a family doc.

[rockscan]

Love the hypocrisy.

My understanding is that this poster (Islandmom) got custody of the kids, got extremely high CS (and SS) -- essentially winning the lottery, never having to work again .. but is shaming a father for asking if he could get the same, and is generally still complaining about her situation and playing the victim.

Sadly, Family Court will continue to me a mess a long a people keep believing that one parent is better / more entitled / does more sacrifices than the other .

They are equal.

In her case he husband doesn’t want them 50/50 and he was abusive so check your facts.

[StillPaying]

I would love to have someone explain how its for the best interests of a child (and not the mother) for :

1) the lower single income earner (father) pays full offset to the higher dual income (mother + new hubby) because he's either stuck at EOW or at 38% due to a graduated schedule (me)

2) both parents have exactly the same $$ requirements for the kids .. i.e. toys cloths, diapers, 2nd bedroom, etc (which let's be honest .. if you're a good parent on a budget .. you very quickly realize that you don't need a lot to $$ to raise a child well).

3) Judge puts in an "offset" exception clause ... eliminating offset CS back to the father when 50/50 kicks in.

.. sure, it's ALL about the kids.

Your lack of knowledge is as obvious as your lack of care for children. You should research child support before making absurb comments.

1. You believe step dad should be paying your responsibility.
2. Saying you don't need a lot of money to raise kids shows you've never raised kids - apart from eow.
3. It doesn't sound like you understand what "offset" is.

.. It sure sounds ALL about you.

[respondent]

Your lack of knowledge is as obvious as your lack of care for children. You should research child support before making absurb comments.

1. You believe step dad should be paying your responsibility.
2. Saying you don't need a lot of money to raise kids shows you've never raised kids - apart from eow.
3. It doesn't sound like you understand what "offset" is.

.. It sure sounds ALL about you.

it is very common to have your ex giving you a child for 38, even 39%, but not giving you child for 40% claiming you are bad parent, not ready or whatever. I see as only possible reasoning is higher CS, and not the child interests. It took me very long time to cross 40%, and as soon as I did suddenly my ex didn't mind me having kids for over 50%, as long as it is less than 60%, and from friends who went through this before they had very similar stories about crossing 40%. Yet our expenses at 39% are about the same as at 40 or 50%.

[AlexLitty]

Agreed. During my unnecessarily elongated court case (as my ex dragged feet on inevitable outcome), my ex cried that it was OK for kids to sleep at my place 5/14, but 6/14 was blasphemy. Luckily I had a judge that was in-tune with what my ex was all about....extracting as much money from me for as long as possible.

Now that I am at 50/50 with kids, my ex is all too happy to pawn them off onto me as she cannot manage her hectic life. And of course, I am happy to have even more time with kids . What is frustrating, as you may have read in my posts, is that my ex does not hold up any financial responsibility when it comes to things such as shoes, snowsuits, coats, school expenditures (field trips, lunches) etc. I just account for everything, keep receipts, and will use the info if ever needed.

I will tell you my story .
My Ex kicked me out of the house and changed locks without a court order for exclusive possession .Subsequently within a month ,where I was staying in a one bedroom condo,she asks for me to either take kids 50/50 or give em to her 100% . She took both the cars ,one for her pleasure driving and one for driving kids . I stood up ,gambled in the stock markets with 100k loan from my TFSA and in 2 yrs I am now networth 5mill . Lo behold and now they come asking for 2.5million . Lol ,the same ex who filed court affidavits alleging abuse etc etc suddenly sends messages asking if we can reconcile/patch up after a year .Its not the kids , it is the $$$$ so once the patch up is done ,they claim more $$ with a new seperation date .They tried to change speeration date thrice saying they were still talking and not seperated .No thank you . This is legally sanctioned loot compounded by gender biased judges

[AlexLitty]

if she is fully certified abroad all she has to do I believe is write her canadian exams
depending on the country, she may actually have to repeat residency here

I would suggest going onto the College of Physicians website and figure it out from there

if she was a family doctor, the CFPC (collge of family docs)
if it was a specialist, Royal College of Physicians of Canada

What I did for nursing was learn the license processs inside and out and when I can demonstrate that I know far more than she does it helps

Thank You I did look up , there is a pathway known as practice based assessment or MLPIMG .Takes about 2 years . There is refusal to challenge the exams or apply for the pathway citing childrens needs for past 7 years ,lol with daycare and a nanny present .