I've been in court ordered mediation for the past couple of months. Recently I've been seeing my child more...finally after years of battleing for same. The new problem that arises as a result of this is that when I go to pick up my child, or drop him back to his mom's, she insists on making nasty talk with me. She makes sarcasic digs in front of our child, and her tone is extremely negative and very nasty.
Yesterday I went to mediation again and my plan was to try to get her to agree to stop any conversation with me during the transfer of our child. I am very concerned about his long term exposure to her consistent and constant comments to me. I hate that he is being exposed to this and part of me feels that this is going to damage him, in the long run, far worse than the divorce itself!
I got absolutley no where with mediation. As has happened on a number of occasions, I take time off work to got there and ex uses it as a forum to go nuts. Then she gets up and storms out of the room. Here I am taking tiime from my job to go to these things and she continues to blow up...nothing gets resolved..and then she storms out because she doesn't like what the mediator says. A complete waste of my time.
So now I feel that I don't want another 6 weeks to go by with my child being exposed to her nastiness when I pick him up and drop him off. I am seeing him this weekend and I am thinking about seeing how it goes and if she does it again, contacting the mediator and my lawyer to tell them that until ex agrees to STOP that kind of talk in front of our child, I will not put him in that position of being exposed to it by picking him up or dropping him off. I feel that I have to take a stand on this. I do not want my child hearing this and I don't feel it's right to go another 6 weeks before anything is possibly resolved. Another 6 weeks of him having to listen to her talk to me that way is hurting him!
I want to take a stand on this but I don't want it to backfire. I want to see my child. I just want everyone to stand up and pay attention to what's giong on. If I tell them all that I will not compromise my childs well-being by having hiim exposed to this behavior, perhaps it will have some impact on her.
If we ended up back in court and I told a judge that mediation did not work and I am not seeing my child because the respondent refuses to cease with damaging comments in front of the child when I attempt to access him, do you think that might get the ball rollling on this?
Thanks
GDGM
Yesterday I went to mediation again and my plan was to try to get her to agree to stop any conversation with me during the transfer of our child. I am very concerned about his long term exposure to her consistent and constant comments to me. I hate that he is being exposed to this and part of me feels that this is going to damage him, in the long run, far worse than the divorce itself!
I got absolutley no where with mediation. As has happened on a number of occasions, I take time off work to got there and ex uses it as a forum to go nuts. Then she gets up and storms out of the room. Here I am taking tiime from my job to go to these things and she continues to blow up...nothing gets resolved..and then she storms out because she doesn't like what the mediator says. A complete waste of my time.
So now I feel that I don't want another 6 weeks to go by with my child being exposed to her nastiness when I pick him up and drop him off. I am seeing him this weekend and I am thinking about seeing how it goes and if she does it again, contacting the mediator and my lawyer to tell them that until ex agrees to STOP that kind of talk in front of our child, I will not put him in that position of being exposed to it by picking him up or dropping him off. I feel that I have to take a stand on this. I do not want my child hearing this and I don't feel it's right to go another 6 weeks before anything is possibly resolved. Another 6 weeks of him having to listen to her talk to me that way is hurting him!
I want to take a stand on this but I don't want it to backfire. I want to see my child. I just want everyone to stand up and pay attention to what's giong on. If I tell them all that I will not compromise my childs well-being by having hiim exposed to this behavior, perhaps it will have some impact on her.
If we ended up back in court and I told a judge that mediation did not work and I am not seeing my child because the respondent refuses to cease with damaging comments in front of the child when I attempt to access him, do you think that might get the ball rollling on this?
Thanks
GDGM
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