I've noticed that over the past little while that many of the posts by many different people have been, at least in my opinion, rather emotionally charged. This is not intended for anyone in particular, although perhaps some could likely benefit more than others from reading this.
Ya, I'll probably get blasted for posting these but I sense there is a disconnect between the intent of the forum and what has been taking place recently.
In any event, these are typical ground rules found in most any peer support group. I wonder if we would be more successful in our efforts to share and receive information if we were to follow some or all of these?
...It just seems there is a lot of shit slinging, finger pointing, and all around negative commentary that does nothing to add value to a lot of conversation taking place. It would seem obvious to me that we are all under a lot of stress as it is given our less than ideal situations that bring us to this forum to begin with and we could all benefit from a more supportive and positive forum.
1. Share feelings and experiences, but not advice.
2. Accept each other without making judgments.
3. Listen to each other. Give everyone an opportunity to share.
4. Avoid interrupting or having side conversations.
5. Have a positive attitude.
6. Be respectful and sensitive to others.
7. Be supportive and encouraging to each other.
8. Refrain from using offensive language.
9. This group is for discussion/support, not debate. No one is right; no one is wrong.
10. Talk about yourself and your own experience. You may ask questions of others, but do not challenge the validity of another’s personal experience.
11. We share feelings and experiences just as they are. There are no right or wrong statements.
12. Each person knows what is best for her or himself, and therefore carries the primary responsibility for her or his well-being.
13. When speaking, use “I” statements, rather than “we,” “you,” or “they.”
14. Please focus on your feelings, not opinions.
15. Avoid individual problem solving. Individuals can learn from one another’s experiences to solve their own problems.
16. When a person posts, the others should actively read with the goal of relating the poster’s experiences to their own.
17. It is empowering and healing for us to gather ideas that can benefit us. No one of us is an expert and no one knows what is best for another.
Ya, I'll probably get blasted for posting these but I sense there is a disconnect between the intent of the forum and what has been taking place recently.
In any event, these are typical ground rules found in most any peer support group. I wonder if we would be more successful in our efforts to share and receive information if we were to follow some or all of these?
...It just seems there is a lot of shit slinging, finger pointing, and all around negative commentary that does nothing to add value to a lot of conversation taking place. It would seem obvious to me that we are all under a lot of stress as it is given our less than ideal situations that bring us to this forum to begin with and we could all benefit from a more supportive and positive forum.
1. Share feelings and experiences, but not advice.
2. Accept each other without making judgments.
3. Listen to each other. Give everyone an opportunity to share.
4. Avoid interrupting or having side conversations.
5. Have a positive attitude.
6. Be respectful and sensitive to others.
7. Be supportive and encouraging to each other.
8. Refrain from using offensive language.
9. This group is for discussion/support, not debate. No one is right; no one is wrong.
10. Talk about yourself and your own experience. You may ask questions of others, but do not challenge the validity of another’s personal experience.
11. We share feelings and experiences just as they are. There are no right or wrong statements.
12. Each person knows what is best for her or himself, and therefore carries the primary responsibility for her or his well-being.
13. When speaking, use “I” statements, rather than “we,” “you,” or “they.”
14. Please focus on your feelings, not opinions.
15. Avoid individual problem solving. Individuals can learn from one another’s experiences to solve their own problems.
16. When a person posts, the others should actively read with the goal of relating the poster’s experiences to their own.
17. It is empowering and healing for us to gather ideas that can benefit us. No one of us is an expert and no one knows what is best for another.
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