Long story, crazy situation.
A few years back I was served with a notice that I was required to pay child support. The child was my then 6 yr old son. The problem was that he was born, his mother and I had put him up for adoption. I can't describe in words how much that broke my heart, but all of those feelings came right back when I got served.
Around the same time, the law firm that handled the adoption sent me a refund cheque because they had been doing some account clean up and had this outstanding money for me. As it turns out, the adoption was never fully completed and the child's mother decided to keep him.
The reason I was served was because her and her boyfriend were receiving social assistance and the government wanted to pay out less money. They saw me as an opportunity to support the child, so that they wouldn't have to.
After a year and a half of court and lawyers and tens of thousands of dollars in debt, the judge ruled for two things. The first was that I could not have contact with my son (which I fought hard for). He said that due to the boys age and the fact that he believed that the boyfriend was his father, it would be in the child's best interest to not know about me.
The second was that I did not have to pay support, however I did have to put a lump sum of money into an RESP. No problem. I had 2 years to do this and gladly put the money aside. When the day came to open the RESP account, the bank informed me that I needed to have a SIN number for my son in order to do this. I contacted his mother and she advised he had no SIN. I asked her to acquire one for him.
She spent two years making up excuses and not doing it. She told me that she never registered his birth and that without a birth certificate he can't get a SIN. She also told me that he couldn't get a health card, yet in prior email exchanges, she had told me about having him to the doctor for some health issues. I don't buy it.
The mother hasn't contacted me or responded to my requests for about a year now.
Anyway, the point is that the due date was a over a year ago and I have been unable to complete the court order. I've tried to cover my butt though. I have copies of all of the emails that she has sent me and my emails to her asking for her assistance in getting the SIN. I've also had the full amount for the RESP sitting in a separate savings account since the date that it was due to be completed.
I've repeatedly contacted my lawyer (8 months ago) who has yet to respond to me with anything other than "we'll get to you soon". So now I am stuck. The last thing my lawyer mentioned was something about a Motion to Vary.
I'm worried that I am going to get into debt over my head again and I have a family to worry about this time. Does anyone have any advice on how I could handle this situation?
A few years back I was served with a notice that I was required to pay child support. The child was my then 6 yr old son. The problem was that he was born, his mother and I had put him up for adoption. I can't describe in words how much that broke my heart, but all of those feelings came right back when I got served.
Around the same time, the law firm that handled the adoption sent me a refund cheque because they had been doing some account clean up and had this outstanding money for me. As it turns out, the adoption was never fully completed and the child's mother decided to keep him.
The reason I was served was because her and her boyfriend were receiving social assistance and the government wanted to pay out less money. They saw me as an opportunity to support the child, so that they wouldn't have to.
After a year and a half of court and lawyers and tens of thousands of dollars in debt, the judge ruled for two things. The first was that I could not have contact with my son (which I fought hard for). He said that due to the boys age and the fact that he believed that the boyfriend was his father, it would be in the child's best interest to not know about me.
The second was that I did not have to pay support, however I did have to put a lump sum of money into an RESP. No problem. I had 2 years to do this and gladly put the money aside. When the day came to open the RESP account, the bank informed me that I needed to have a SIN number for my son in order to do this. I contacted his mother and she advised he had no SIN. I asked her to acquire one for him.
She spent two years making up excuses and not doing it. She told me that she never registered his birth and that without a birth certificate he can't get a SIN. She also told me that he couldn't get a health card, yet in prior email exchanges, she had told me about having him to the doctor for some health issues. I don't buy it.
The mother hasn't contacted me or responded to my requests for about a year now.
Anyway, the point is that the due date was a over a year ago and I have been unable to complete the court order. I've tried to cover my butt though. I have copies of all of the emails that she has sent me and my emails to her asking for her assistance in getting the SIN. I've also had the full amount for the RESP sitting in a separate savings account since the date that it was due to be completed.
I've repeatedly contacted my lawyer (8 months ago) who has yet to respond to me with anything other than "we'll get to you soon". So now I am stuck. The last thing my lawyer mentioned was something about a Motion to Vary.
I'm worried that I am going to get into debt over my head again and I have a family to worry about this time. Does anyone have any advice on how I could handle this situation?
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