I would tell the ex that you are in agreement that the child should attend her wedding and are willing to facilitate his being there. But you don't agree that it should be at a) your expense or b) that he should lose any parenting time.
State you will agree to the child being out there for 4 days (5 on the high side, the length is less material if you are getting makeup time) but you want your makeup time first (if you can get the boy for like March Break or sometime when your husband may be able to take time off as he isn't busy, that may work).
But I'd state that I am not going to be responsible for the extra costs associated with travel due to her decision to plan her wedding date during the period of time that I have historically taken my vacation time with the child and without consultation or consideration of my parenting time.
They will likely win a battle in court for the child to be there. And you already agree to sacrifice a little so he can. The issue will solely be who will be responsible for the flight, how long it will be for and when will make up time occur. Send out a list of dates that work for you for makeup time of 4 days. 4 days should be plenty of time to go out there. If the wedding is on Saturday, the child flies in on Friday and comes back on Monday. They should be fine. And it isn't like the child is going to a huge part of the wedding anyway. I had my 6y/o daughter in my wedding. Outside of getting her hair done and getting ready, there isn't a lot that kids do. They are great to be there, but they aren't really involved and shouldn't be super tired.
State you will agree to the child being out there for 4 days (5 on the high side, the length is less material if you are getting makeup time) but you want your makeup time first (if you can get the boy for like March Break or sometime when your husband may be able to take time off as he isn't busy, that may work).
But I'd state that I am not going to be responsible for the extra costs associated with travel due to her decision to plan her wedding date during the period of time that I have historically taken my vacation time with the child and without consultation or consideration of my parenting time.
They will likely win a battle in court for the child to be there. And you already agree to sacrifice a little so he can. The issue will solely be who will be responsible for the flight, how long it will be for and when will make up time occur. Send out a list of dates that work for you for makeup time of 4 days. 4 days should be plenty of time to go out there. If the wedding is on Saturday, the child flies in on Friday and comes back on Monday. They should be fine. And it isn't like the child is going to a huge part of the wedding anyway. I had my 6y/o daughter in my wedding. Outside of getting her hair done and getting ready, there isn't a lot that kids do. They are great to be there, but they aren't really involved and shouldn't be super tired.
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