Originally posted by ConcernenedStepMom78
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Stop freaking out about mom and write down all of the reasons that the schedule that dad proposes gives the kids stability and works best for them. Everyone knows that there are a ton of reasons. Concentrate on those.
Originally posted by ConcernenedStepMom78
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It is in the child(ren)'s best interest to spend time with each parent in a stable and reliable schedule. I propose that we do every other week/weekend in order to keep a simple and constant routine for the child(ren). Historically as parents we have been unable to come to an agreement on several major decisions such as XXX, XXX and XXX. We both agree that someone must have the final decision making in the future. I propose that I have the final say after consulting with Mom. I have historically shown that I have tried to work with her by offering XX, XX and XX to solve our disagreements and would continue to try to work with mom in the future. Mom has proven numerous times to be unwilling to work with me, as she has on XX, XX and XX occasions and I believe that this would continue should she be given the final decision making.
This gives a more "child centred" approach and promotes dad, while keeps the mom bashing to a small bit at the end.
Originally posted by ConcernenedStepMom78
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Originally posted by ConcernenedStepMom78
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I don't think that anyone is trying to bash you or dad... Just trying to say that you may not even notice how often you bash mom. Perhaps you should try to narrow your focus a bit about what you want to get out of the courts. Instead of complaining about everything mom has ever done make it concise.
1. Figure out exactly what you want
2. Figure out why this works best for the kid(s)
3. Figure out what dad has done to help this happen for kids
3. Pick the major things that mom has done to show that she shouldn't have whatever her way is.
Sometimes you have to give a bit too (I know that you give a ton and pick up a lot of the slack normally)... Mom has done what you wanted and moved back to your town... do you think that you could figure out a way to compromise on the schedule? What schedule does she now want?
Cheers!
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