I need some help desperately....
I haven't split from my spouse yet. Things have been shaky for almost a year, and I need some advice. We've had the talk about seperating, but both of us are reuctant to do this because of our kids. We have 2 kids which are both under the age of 8.
My husband insists that if we split that we do a shared custoday arrangement. 1/2 time with him and 1/2 with me. The issues are this:
I have a job where I do about 2 12 hour shifts a week, work from home the other 3 days, and home every weekend. I do travel on occassion also.
First off would the judge give him custody because he is staying in the family home? (I would have to move and if the kids were with me, they'd have to switch schools) Would he agree (the judge) to let me take them back and forth to their old school if I did have to move?
I just started a new job (like a few months ago), because I needed something that paid better...anticipating a possible marriage breakdown....would this affect me getting custody?
As you can see, I am extremely concerned about my kids. I would rather have joint custody and him have access around his schedule (which I would totally give him without issue), but I think he will go for the jugular on this. He'd be more concerned with himself than whats best for the kids (which is partially why our marriage is in disrepair)
Any advice you can provide me with, would be so helpful.
I haven't split from my spouse yet. Things have been shaky for almost a year, and I need some advice. We've had the talk about seperating, but both of us are reuctant to do this because of our kids. We have 2 kids which are both under the age of 8.
My husband insists that if we split that we do a shared custoday arrangement. 1/2 time with him and 1/2 with me. The issues are this:
- He has a job where his hours are inconsistent,and he can be away for several days at a time, then home for several days.
- He makes about 4 times what I do
- He wants to stay in the family home (and I think he MAY be able to afford that)
I have a job where I do about 2 12 hour shifts a week, work from home the other 3 days, and home every weekend. I do travel on occassion also.
First off would the judge give him custody because he is staying in the family home? (I would have to move and if the kids were with me, they'd have to switch schools) Would he agree (the judge) to let me take them back and forth to their old school if I did have to move?
I just started a new job (like a few months ago), because I needed something that paid better...anticipating a possible marriage breakdown....would this affect me getting custody?
As you can see, I am extremely concerned about my kids. I would rather have joint custody and him have access around his schedule (which I would totally give him without issue), but I think he will go for the jugular on this. He'd be more concerned with himself than whats best for the kids (which is partially why our marriage is in disrepair)
Any advice you can provide me with, would be so helpful.
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