Hi all,
I've seen a bunch of responses in various threads about having gone through some type of family mediation or co-parent counselling....
I've suggested- and ex has accepted that we seek at least 5 sessions of co-parent counselling.
We are in litigation currently. We have both filed pleadings (him- application, me - response); attended first settlement conference and entered into consent application to deal with access and preschool choice only- and the coparent counselling sessions.
I would rather spend money on good therapists to help us function as parents, rather than lawyers.
So what are your tips about going in with realistic expectations?
What was your experience like?
What does the therapist do? What should I ask them to focus on?
For example- to me, the big pink elephant in the room is that my ex made threats against our daughter. There is a history of domestic violence. There is a history of violent actions in front of her- and even using her to get to me.
However, for the last 8 months he has had regular, supervised access visits with no issues. He loves our daughter- and he wants to be involved in her life. She loves him... and they should have a strong relationship.
I would like to move on from the violence issue- and he has asked me what do I need from him to prove he's a capable dad and so we can share custody and parenting time. I've said he needs to continue therapy and address his substance abuse and anger issues.
I'm open to all of that- but we need to address the big issues I've outlined above.
Anyways- I'm just looking for some insight from people who've been through the co-parent counselling process, or something similar.
I've seen a bunch of responses in various threads about having gone through some type of family mediation or co-parent counselling....
I've suggested- and ex has accepted that we seek at least 5 sessions of co-parent counselling.
We are in litigation currently. We have both filed pleadings (him- application, me - response); attended first settlement conference and entered into consent application to deal with access and preschool choice only- and the coparent counselling sessions.
I would rather spend money on good therapists to help us function as parents, rather than lawyers.
So what are your tips about going in with realistic expectations?
What was your experience like?
What does the therapist do? What should I ask them to focus on?
For example- to me, the big pink elephant in the room is that my ex made threats against our daughter. There is a history of domestic violence. There is a history of violent actions in front of her- and even using her to get to me.
However, for the last 8 months he has had regular, supervised access visits with no issues. He loves our daughter- and he wants to be involved in her life. She loves him... and they should have a strong relationship.
I would like to move on from the violence issue- and he has asked me what do I need from him to prove he's a capable dad and so we can share custody and parenting time. I've said he needs to continue therapy and address his substance abuse and anger issues.
I'm open to all of that- but we need to address the big issues I've outlined above.
Anyways- I'm just looking for some insight from people who've been through the co-parent counselling process, or something similar.
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