Good evening.
I wanted to ask a few separate questions here to stimulate some discussion regarding the proper way for separated parents to handle vacations/Dr. Appointments on the interim, when custody has not yet been decided.
Vacations:
It s quite obvious that ex is setting roots in QC. D4 says she rarely sleeps in Ottawa. Every time I drop her off ex is packing the car. D4 runs to her asking if they're going to mtl and ex says yes.
I have a mobility clause that deals with relocation. It clearly states that it's in place to maintain an effective status quo in Ottawa. Not another province. But it's only in effect for relocation.
My question is, since I'm not okay with status quo being built in QC .. and not knowing where D4 is half the time, I want my ex to be cognizant that I would like the details, the time of departure/return, and my consent to leave the province.
Is this a reasonable request .. given my situation?
Just some info I found: Section 7: Travel - Parenting Plan Tool
Dr's Appt's:
My ex has purposely not invited me to Dr./Dentist appointments, only notifying me afterwards. Following the abduction I didn't know their whereabouts and she unilaterally switched our family Dr., withholding all health/welfare info for many months, including the new Dr's/Dentist.
I would like to continue to be involved in D4's life when it comes to appointments, etc. I invite her to every appointment, every special event .. it's just not returned.
Do I have the right to request that I have notification of any appointments a week or two before and somehow be involved? I feel like it's a very sneaky way for her to achieve her goals. Abduct, hide, change Dr's, keep me out of the loop.
I attended every single appointment with D4 pre-separation. She just chose to not have me involved anymore. I disagree with her decision to keep me out of the loop.
Thanks you for your help,
LF32
I wanted to ask a few separate questions here to stimulate some discussion regarding the proper way for separated parents to handle vacations/Dr. Appointments on the interim, when custody has not yet been decided.
Vacations:
It s quite obvious that ex is setting roots in QC. D4 says she rarely sleeps in Ottawa. Every time I drop her off ex is packing the car. D4 runs to her asking if they're going to mtl and ex says yes.
I have a mobility clause that deals with relocation. It clearly states that it's in place to maintain an effective status quo in Ottawa. Not another province. But it's only in effect for relocation.
My question is, since I'm not okay with status quo being built in QC .. and not knowing where D4 is half the time, I want my ex to be cognizant that I would like the details, the time of departure/return, and my consent to leave the province.
Is this a reasonable request .. given my situation?
Just some info I found: Section 7: Travel - Parenting Plan Tool
Dr's Appt's:
My ex has purposely not invited me to Dr./Dentist appointments, only notifying me afterwards. Following the abduction I didn't know their whereabouts and she unilaterally switched our family Dr., withholding all health/welfare info for many months, including the new Dr's/Dentist.
I would like to continue to be involved in D4's life when it comes to appointments, etc. I invite her to every appointment, every special event .. it's just not returned.
Do I have the right to request that I have notification of any appointments a week or two before and somehow be involved? I feel like it's a very sneaky way for her to achieve her goals. Abduct, hide, change Dr's, keep me out of the loop.
I attended every single appointment with D4 pre-separation. She just chose to not have me involved anymore. I disagree with her decision to keep me out of the loop.
Thanks you for your help,
LF32
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