... child has been greeting me differently when picked up from daycare or moms. when picked up from school or sees me at school very very happy to see me runs and gives me hugs. noticed this and as suhgested by my therapist I asked child if she's noticed a difference. she's said babysitter has told her to not give me hugs or be picked up by me and walk beside me only. she's continued this and keeps looking back at babysitter to see if they are watching or not. recently she pushed my hands away with hers when I went to give her a hug.. first time... of course the babysitter and mom laughed. I had serious talk with child how it was disrespectful to do that to your dad when they are greeting you and she basically said she can get in trouble and then her babysitter will yell at her. Ive essentially said you can greet me however you want.. if you want to give me a hug.. that's your right and it's your decision.. you have a right to make your decision. she's said babysitter yells at her and Ive told her to just tell her to not yell at you to treat you with respect and talk to you nicely.
same issue with goodbyes .. won't let mw hug her and pushes me. saying I must not walk her to her moms door. .. and again by assistance therapist ive talked to her that dads and gentlemen walk their princesses to the door.. goodbyes are sad so we'll say see you later.. ending our goodbyes in a positive way is important for both of us..
I've rinse and repeat to fix the goodbyes but the babysitter pickups are just ridiculous. child competely ignores me under influence of mom and babysitter and babysitter stares at me like a hawk as if I'm at a supervised access centre - even the people at supervised access centre don't stare at you like that.
anyway.. have I done anything wrong here..? any word of wisdoms? would you have done anything different? I'm still awaiting lawyers to figure best course of action to do pickups from school.. lawyer has advised me not to go to the school just yet..
we are also still waiting to see if OCL will take our case.
same issue with goodbyes .. won't let mw hug her and pushes me. saying I must not walk her to her moms door. .. and again by assistance therapist ive talked to her that dads and gentlemen walk their princesses to the door.. goodbyes are sad so we'll say see you later.. ending our goodbyes in a positive way is important for both of us..
I've rinse and repeat to fix the goodbyes but the babysitter pickups are just ridiculous. child competely ignores me under influence of mom and babysitter and babysitter stares at me like a hawk as if I'm at a supervised access centre - even the people at supervised access centre don't stare at you like that.
anyway.. have I done anything wrong here..? any word of wisdoms? would you have done anything different? I'm still awaiting lawyers to figure best course of action to do pickups from school.. lawyer has advised me not to go to the school just yet..
we are also still waiting to see if OCL will take our case.
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