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Old 12-01-2010, 11:25 AM
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Since my son was 1 (he’s 5 year old now) my ex-wife and I share 50/50 custody of him. She quickly after 4 months of our separation had her boyfriend move in with her; they got married and have a new 8 month old child. She has always made a slightly higher salary than me however I never sought any type of financial compensation / child support from her household.

For 2 years I dated the same person, I lived as a single dad and raised my son on my own without the financial help of anyone. On the 3rd year my girlfriend and I moved in together and have recently got married. My new spouse makes a significant higher income than I do. About 7 times as much.

My ex-wife who has been off on maternity leave for the past 8 months is earning a significantly less amount of money. Whatever the max EI Ontario pays… We were sharing the cost of daycare at 50/50 therefore when she advised she was taking Mat leave I advised her that I would take over paying the full daycare amount until she returned to work. I have been doing so ever since.

She will be starting a new job in a few weeks and she has advised that her income will be approximately $10,000 less than mine. She’s decided to threaten me with claiming undue hardship due to her E.I. salary being so low and the fact that her salary will be less than previous years.

By doing this she wants my new spouse’s income to come into play as she feels we have a much higher standard of living than she and her husband do. I agree that yes we have a higher standard of living than they do and I am prepared to pay whatever I need to pay “my share / my salary”! What can I do to prevent or protect my new spouse’s income from coming into play? Together my e-wife and her husband earn approximately $75,000 per year which is quite higher than the poverty line.

What do I do? What is the likelihood of this occurring?

What I’ve read in previous posts are that Undue hardship claims are about the payor, not the recipient, of child support and Child support amounts are based on my income alone.

Keep in mind we still share 50/50 custody… Because she’s been off on Maternity leave for the past year will only her 1 year salary be taken into consideration when calculating child support? Will they look at the historical 3 years that she’s made?
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Old 12-01-2010, 11:45 AM
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Not an expert by any means, but I would say the three years historically would be looked at. She didn't end up on EI because she lost her job or anything like that, she CHOSE to have another child and CHOSE to take mat leave as well. It was good on you to offer to pay the full cost of daycare while she was off however you aren't obligated to and you may have set a bit of a standard when it comes to that so make sure to establish that you expect it to change once she is working again. If your agreement states you share the cost you could always let her know you'll be going back to that and should she wish to change it she can file a motion.

Once her mat leave ends she is capable of going back to work so a claim for undue hardship would be far-fetched as she isn't paying YOU support and your new spouse's income shouldn't come into play. HER new spouse's income may come into play if she intends to make that claim - keeping in mind her current financial situation is one of both hers and her new spouse's as they chose to have another child. Their choise to expand their family shouldn't affect the supprt of your child.
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Why would her salary suddenly be lower? If she was off on mat leave the old job + salary is legally required to be offered back to her by the employer. If she CHOOSES to leave THAT job for a NEW one...again, that's a CHOICE she made and she can't claim undue hardship.

If she has chosen to leave the job she took mat leave for, and instead look for new work, you could certainly argue to have an income imputted to her based on what she is capable of making.

IF she tried for undue hardship, then HER new spouse's income would also come into play. Undue hardship takes the income of all adults over the age of 16 in BOTH households, then compares them. There has to be a significant difference in the two.

Are you currently paying CS to her at all? Are you paying offset or full table? From what you describe your ex is blowing smoke out her ass.
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Why would her salary suddenly be lower?
For the period she is on Mat Leave (max 1 yr), she would be receiving only EI benefits.
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Check this out for help in calculating your shared parenting child support calculations:

The Federal Child Support Guidelines: Step-by-Step
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For the period she is on Mat Leave (max 1 yr), she would be receiving only EI benefits.
Yes I know, I'm talking about the fact she's returning to work to a new job. What happened to the one she left on maternity leave? If she's on mat leave, then the company had to re offer her that position she left, or similar, and has to keep her pay rate.

If she's voluntarily dropped that job in favor of a new one for less money, that's a choice. It also would weaken any claim for undue hardship since she's capable of making more.
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Sorry... I should have been clearer regarding her E.I./MAT leave. From what I've been told... She found out she was pregnant, didn't say anything to her employer, was laid off from that position due to economic times, started a new position in another firm, 3 weeks later announced her pregnancy and they let her go at the end of that week. So going back to an existing job is not an option. When she speaks to people in general including myself she claims to be off on MAT leave however I guess it would be purely EI/Shortage of work.

My concern with undue Hardship is that my new spouse makes 7 times more than I do... Even if they look at her income along with her spouses income it doesn't even come close to what we on the other hand make therefore our standard of living is "considered" much higher... We have the bills to back it up though so no we are not Millionaires but we have a nice life together.

This is purely about revenge and the fact that my son and I are happy in our new household is driving her nuts. She has a new baby, overwhelmed, not happy, starting a new job etc. That's what I think this is about... She's trying to make myself along with my new spouse pay for her unhappiness.
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The court will not look kindly on her undue hardship, you have to prove that you are barely able to meet the basic necessities, plus her husbands income will be taken into consideration
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First she can threaten all she wants, but she better be prepared to pay more as well!
While the supreme court ruled there is no retro child support (nice you can pay too much for years and loss) they did say if a deception was in play then you can make a claim.
Also remeber hardship is income and expenses for both households.

It is a very bad decision when you really think about it for when single parents date they can be treated like a lepard if knowing they may get stuck paying for child support for a child not even theirs.

Ultimately before you decide you have to do the complete numbers for everything both households and expenses. To my understanding she would have to claim she is paying more, but you are. Make sure you cna prove you are paying more child expenses.
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One last question... We were trying to book a family trip to Disney... Grandma, grandpa, uncle, cousins and us of course... When I mentioned wanting to apply for a passport in order to allow us all to go she has advised that she does not like the idea because she fears that our child will get kid napped. What kinda bull is this... I can fly him to Vancouver or PEI from Toronto but we can't go to disney? Is anyone aware of any way to get an order of release or a way to legally obtain a passport without her... Our home made agreement only states that we are not able to move outside the GTA... Nothing about traveling out of Canada. Thoughts?
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