Hi all.
I've posted on here a few times, but will give some back story:
Involved with a woman for a year, she got pregnant.
Promised to marry and support, she dumped me three months in for no given reason.
Would not give me any info during pregnancy, did not inform me that child was born until three days later.
Child was born June 18, 2010.
I have been able to see my son twice a week, for 1-2 hours each visit. Though I have asked for more time.
I have asked that I be included on Birth Certificate, and that I be able to sign an Affidavit of Paternity (Or Canadian equivalent) since birth.
Asked that childs last name be hyphenated, and that we redo the BC.
BM seemed amicable, but dragging her feet on most things.
Yesterday, I received a letter from Income Support (Welfare), asking that I come to their office to discuss CS.
I have not paid CS yet, instead offering to purchase needed items until an agreement is signed between BM and myself.
Not that I will not pay, just that I want all legal protocols to be followed.
Asked BM to discuss CS, also if we could move up the arrangements.
She has stated that I will get EOW, and an overnight a week, and no more. And only after 12 months of age. She will NOT budge on this.
Also does not want joint custody, and refuses to entertain the notion of changing the last name to be hyphenated.
Also stated that I will not get any Christmases, or other important holidays. Sheesh!
SO, in the last couple days, when I ask to visit my son, she has stated that she will not allow it until we attend mediation.
Which I am fine with, but if BM will not negotiate, seems to be kind of a waste of time.
She also refuses to set a PP for more than 1 year, temporary only.
If there's one thing I've learned from this site, it's not to agree to ANY temporary plan, as they all too often become permanent.
So... How should I go about this?
I don't want to make any missteps, but also don't want for her to establish any legal status quos by my delay.
I do have an interview with an attorney tomorrow, but any advice would be extremely helpful.
I've posted on here a few times, but will give some back story:
Involved with a woman for a year, she got pregnant.
Promised to marry and support, she dumped me three months in for no given reason.
Would not give me any info during pregnancy, did not inform me that child was born until three days later.
Child was born June 18, 2010.
I have been able to see my son twice a week, for 1-2 hours each visit. Though I have asked for more time.
I have asked that I be included on Birth Certificate, and that I be able to sign an Affidavit of Paternity (Or Canadian equivalent) since birth.
Asked that childs last name be hyphenated, and that we redo the BC.
BM seemed amicable, but dragging her feet on most things.
Yesterday, I received a letter from Income Support (Welfare), asking that I come to their office to discuss CS.
I have not paid CS yet, instead offering to purchase needed items until an agreement is signed between BM and myself.
Not that I will not pay, just that I want all legal protocols to be followed.
Asked BM to discuss CS, also if we could move up the arrangements.
She has stated that I will get EOW, and an overnight a week, and no more. And only after 12 months of age. She will NOT budge on this.
Also does not want joint custody, and refuses to entertain the notion of changing the last name to be hyphenated.
Also stated that I will not get any Christmases, or other important holidays. Sheesh!
SO, in the last couple days, when I ask to visit my son, she has stated that she will not allow it until we attend mediation.
Which I am fine with, but if BM will not negotiate, seems to be kind of a waste of time.
She also refuses to set a PP for more than 1 year, temporary only.
If there's one thing I've learned from this site, it's not to agree to ANY temporary plan, as they all too often become permanent.
So... How should I go about this?
I don't want to make any missteps, but also don't want for her to establish any legal status quos by my delay.
I do have an interview with an attorney tomorrow, but any advice would be extremely helpful.
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