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Old 07-02-2019, 03:37 PM
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What Iona just said.



Focus on filing the application and getting to your first case conference. Once there the judge will likely make her agree to some sort of temporary schedule



In the meantime..... keep every single toe in line. Get him to write out a schedule for himself concerning contact with daughter maybe? Ie:



Monday: Email ex “Dear shit for brains, I would like to take xxxx from Friday at 5 until Saturday at 5. If that does not fit your schedule, Saturday at 5 until Sunday at 5 also works for me. If you do not specify which option works best for you, I will be there Friday at 5 to pick xxxx up. I have also attached my proposed 50/50 parenting time schedule for your review” Do not respond to any emails back from her unless they have a 50/50 parenting schedule proposal and/or has agreed to one of the weekend visit times



Tuesday: Email ex “Dear shithead, I will be calling this evening at xxxPM to speak with xxxx briefly” Then call at that time, and journal document the outcome. If ex gets on phone and tries to engage him, hang up



Wednesday: Email ex: “Dear Scum of the Earth, I have not received a response on whether a Friday or Saturday evening pick up is more acceptable for you. Therefore, I will be at the home at 5pm Friday to pick xxxx up. Ps. I will also be calling xxxx to speak to her tomorrow evening at xxxPM”



Thursday: Email ex: “Dear Regret, please find attached again my proposal of a 50/50 parenting schedule below. I would also like to inform you that I will be attending xxxx co parenting course. I feel that it would be beneficial for both of us to get on board with this for best interests of xxx. PS don’t forget I will be calling to speak to xxx at xxxPM tonight”



Friday: Email Ex “ Dear Worst Nightmare, Please be reminded that I will be at your home at 5pm this evening to pick up xxxx. I will return her to your home at 5pm Saturday” Then show up with a witness. Carry a tape recorder/phone. Knock on door, if ex answers and says no, calmly say ok, walk away and document



Saturday/Sunday: Give Satan’s Spawn a two day email break. Use this time to study family law







Do not keep the child. DO NOT even threaten to keep the child.


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Side note. Email her or lawyer or CC both I guess. Get her billables up!

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Old 07-02-2019, 04:36 PM
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I wouldn't start playing the keeping the kid game.
Do you foresee a problem with the "move into the house" game? The "keep the kid" game doesn't work here because the guy left the matrimonial home.

He cannot just let this situation fester. Status quo does not work in his favour. Something has to change or he is going to lose his kid.

And yeah, agreed that calling CAS with nothing but empty allegations is worse than useless.
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Old 07-02-2019, 04:45 PM
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Calling the police never really a “great idea”. She would likely start hitting herself and then he ends up getting charged (it’s happened... domestic calls are serious biz. They will charge both and let the courts decide)
That is why he records absolutely every interaction with her from this point forward.

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I mean moving back would be a “fix” to seeing child. But no way anything good comes of it
Something very good comes of it. He gets to see his kid. I don't see how it possibly hurts, assuming he can control himself.

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I recall staying there and my ex constantly antagonizing me. Not coming home so I could go to work while I have my son. Ect ext ext
Honestly, I'm getting sick and tired of these cowardly and spineless fathers who leave the house as soon as the shit gets a little difficult. The father is an adult, he can handle the discomfort of being around the mother.

Living with my ex was horrible. You know what was even worse? The prospect of losing my kids if I did not suck it up. Real fathers don't bail on their kids just because the mother is getting aggressive. You stay in the house, you protect yourself, but you stay in the fucking house.

Seriously, why do fathers think that they have some god given right to bail on their kids and then whine that the legal system is against them? Yes, the legal system is against fathers, but that doesn't mean that you capitulate. It means that you are careful, intelligent, strategic, and unemotional. It means that you take any crap that the mom might throw your way, because your kids need their father.

Mothers can play games and send fancy emails. They won't drop below 50% custody unless they have serious diagnosed mental disorders. You need to tell your friend to get back into the home. He is on a rapid train to being an every other weekend dad.
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Old 07-02-2019, 04:48 PM
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Thanks Janus.
Yeah. She could just keep calling the police saying crying assault until he’s forced to leave eventually I’m sure
Yeah they (CAS) were of little help... just said hire a lawyer. They said yes what she’s doing she can’t do technically but nothing saying she can’t. Since she’s in the house she’s deemed something that calls the shots. I forget... But you just need to keep following her demands until you get in front of a judge. Unfortunately.
Just keep asking for time and document that it’s not happening.


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That is why he records absolutely every interaction with her from this point forward.







Something very good comes of it. He gets to see his kid. I don't see how it possibly hurts, assuming he can control himself.







Honestly, I'm getting sick and tired of these cowardly and spineless fathers who leave the house as soon as the shit gets a little difficult. The father is an adult, he can handle the discomfort of being around the mother.



Living with my ex was horrible. You know what was even worse? The prospect of losing my kids if I did not suck it up. Real fathers don't bail on their kids just because the mother is getting aggressive. You stay in the house, you protect yourself, but you stay in the fucking house.



Seriously, why do fathers think that they have some god given right to bail on their kids and then whine that the legal system is against them? Yes, the legal system is against fathers, but that doesn't mean that you capitulate. It means that you are careful, intelligent, strategic, and unemotional. It means that you take any crap that the mom might throw your way, because your kids need their father.



Mothers can play games and send fancy emails. They won't drop below 50% custody unless they have serious diagnosed mental disorders. You need to tell your friend to get back into the home. He is on a rapid train to being an every other weekend dad.


Yeah. Need to figure out how to get him back in there. I’m confident he could be calm. Like you I did it as well. But the childish efforts to trigger you is something lol.

At 3 wks out. How can he move back in.? She took the key. What would be the legal game plan here.



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Old 07-06-2019, 11:49 PM
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At 3 wks out. How can he move back in.? She took the key. What would be the legal game plan here.
Are they joint owners?
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Old 07-06-2019, 11:52 PM
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Rental.
Lawyer has been emailed by deadline
They’ve yet to reply. Lol


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Rental.
Lawyer has been emailed by deadline
If his name is on the lease he should be allowed back in
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