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Old 05-09-2018, 06:17 PM
Berner_Faith Berner_Faith is offline
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The whole tax refund thing doesnít make sense. If they are separated he should have done his own taxes and therefore changed his banking info. If he wasnít responsible enough to change his own banking info for his tax return thatís his fault... it was deposited into a joint account that he should have closed when they separated. Donít put all the blame on his ex because he wasnít responsible.

Hey I get it, my husband was going through a divorce when we met... itís easy to get dragged into their drama but I donít believe everything he says about their relationship. He has his view points and she has hers and well I wasnít there so I donít have a view point on their relationship. All I know is he must have changed who he was because if he did the crap with me that she said he did with her we wouldnít be together.

Itís fine to ask questions for your partner but remember this is his battle to fight. Support him in his battle but donít get involved in his battle. Trust me itís easy to wash your hands of his ex and let him put on his big boy pants and deal with her himself


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Old 05-26-2018, 02:30 AM
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The whole tax refund thing doesnít make sense. If they are separated he should have done his own taxes and therefore changed his banking info. If he wasnít responsible enough to change his own banking info for his tax return thatís his fault... it was deposited into a joint account that he should have closed when they separated. Donít put all the blame on his ex because he wasnít responsible.

Sheís an accountant. She did their taxes every year. She handled ALL the money, bills, banking. He wasnít allowed to touch any of it. For years.

He is VERY dumb for allowing her to do his taxes. I warned him. But he said sheíd never risk her professional certification by doing something incorrectly.

Boy was he wrong!

They still had a joint account for the childrenís expenses etc.

She was given the account that it was supposed to go into. She had in go into the joint account and took it right out.

Hey I get it, my husband was going through a divorce when we met... itís easy to get dragged into their drama but I donít believe everything he says about their relationship. He has his view points and she has hers and well I wasnít there so I donít have a view point on their relationship. All I know is he must have changed who he was because if he did the crap with me that she said he did with her we wouldnít be together.

Unfortunately he has a learning disability and many things are incredibly difficult for him. Admin stuff is one of them. He can build anything - but taxes etc. Nope.

So he tells me how he feels etc and I write everything out for him. I donít need to question things he says about her as I see it all. Itís not pretty. 😔


Itís fine to ask questions for your partner but remember this is his battle to fight. Support him in his battle but donít get involved in his battle. Trust me itís easy to wash your hands of his ex and let him put on his big boy pants and deal with her himself

I only wish. But he canít. Slowly he will, but heís got 20 years of not being allowed to even speak or have an opinion that differed from hers. The controlling was awful. Basically emotionally abused for years. And I see it now still.
He canít even talk to her. She berates him and he just cowers.
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