I agree that the ex is being unreasonable, but did you think of the ramifications of the ultimatum? The likely outcome to the ultimatum is the ex starts taking the kids for their prescribed parenting time, and they all couch surf until the ex finds a permanent place to stay. The ex isn't going to want to give up C/S, so they will exercise their parenting time in spite of it not being in the kids best interests. This helps no one, and upsets everyone.
If the guy was working with her, I would agree, she should work with him to find a compromise. But all he's doing is over time not showing up expecting to get paid like he is. That's nonsense.
The OP shouldn't be paying child support out of fear that he might not be in the best interest of his kids. He's their father....to me, if he's that irresponsible to not work with her and find a reasonable solution on a safe place for the kids and a reasonable amount of time based on access...all the more reason she should be seeking a change.
The OP clearly made it sounds like this situation is due to irresponsibility on the part of the ex. So should she continue paying unfair support in fear every time he does something similarly stupid?
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