So, in a few weeks, when DD turns 5yo, our order indicates that phone calls will be permitted between DD and the 'other' parent.
Any suggestions on how to prepare DD for this i.e. what kind of expectations they should have, something to key them up for WANTING to call me when at mom's house. I'm a bit worried that somehow DD will not be interested - either because Mom has turned her against it, or because it is emotionally a strange/new thing for DD to 'cross the streams', or just because it is new. I think that in each household, she is perfectly content with the 'current parent', so I'm not seeing any big need from DD herself for this. She is away from me for 6 days at a time (Thurs-Weds when no weekend), and away from her mom for 2 days at a time (Fri-Su).
I'm pretty worried what Mom could do with this.
We've heard a little hint from DD that she will be getting a smartphone soon (gulp!). That right there can be a problem - if she becomes glued to it, then we are meanies for taking it away. We are trying to avoid screen-time & video games for as long as possible (preferring active time, and family activities)....
I guess the obvious is some practice ... having her call me at work when my partner is at home with her after school. We started doing this, and it is pretty sweet.
DD has NO experience of mom and I together, and whenever we are all together e.g. at a school event, she has a hard time with it. Mom keeps her distance, so DD cannot be with both of us at once.
Any ideas? Warnings?
Any suggestions on how to prepare DD for this i.e. what kind of expectations they should have, something to key them up for WANTING to call me when at mom's house. I'm a bit worried that somehow DD will not be interested - either because Mom has turned her against it, or because it is emotionally a strange/new thing for DD to 'cross the streams', or just because it is new. I think that in each household, she is perfectly content with the 'current parent', so I'm not seeing any big need from DD herself for this. She is away from me for 6 days at a time (Thurs-Weds when no weekend), and away from her mom for 2 days at a time (Fri-Su).
I'm pretty worried what Mom could do with this.
We've heard a little hint from DD that she will be getting a smartphone soon (gulp!). That right there can be a problem - if she becomes glued to it, then we are meanies for taking it away. We are trying to avoid screen-time & video games for as long as possible (preferring active time, and family activities)....
I guess the obvious is some practice ... having her call me at work when my partner is at home with her after school. We started doing this, and it is pretty sweet.
DD has NO experience of mom and I together, and whenever we are all together e.g. at a school event, she has a hard time with it. Mom keeps her distance, so DD cannot be with both of us at once.
Any ideas? Warnings?
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