Originally posted by Mother
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So you propose a schedule which gradually increases access over the next year. Leave a little bit of wiggle room for Parent B to propose changes to your suggested schedule so s/he doesn't feel like it's being enforced on her. And then don't agree to anything which does not allow for this increase in access. Ultimately, if Parents A and B cannot come up with a schedule that they can agree on, a judge will make the call, so prepare yourself for a possible long haul. Parent B does not own the kid, it is not up to him/her to "allow" changes in access.
As you know, a 50/50 schedule usually triggers a change in CS to offset. You've said that Parent A is willing to continue paying full table CS, they just want the access. However, Parent B might be worried that Parent A will turn around in the future and say "now that I have 50/50, I'm going to ask for the CS payment to be reduced". Would Parent A accept a schedule where they've got just under 50% - say a 45%-55% split - in order to allay any such concerns from Parent B? 45% access plus joint custody still adds up to a lot more kid time than Parent A has now, and it might be a way to get the access increased sooner rather than later.
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