Posting this for a family member ....
Couple married over 15 yrs. Have 2 kids ages 15 (girl) & 14 (boy)
Husband left wife 8 wks ago and left the matrimonial home but moved just down the street & into his parents home. See's kids every day either in mornings before work or after work.
Kids either want to live primarily with him and/or 50/50 split (depending on their moods at the time).
After him being gone approx. 4 weeks, wife realizes that he's NOT coming back & they start talking about options (selling home, one of them keeping home so kids' don't have their home-base disrupted, etc.). Wife agree's that husband should keep the home as she can't afford it.
Now 4 weeks after that and after he's gone to the bank to ensure he can pay her out, get a new mortgage, etc ... she's come back to him saying that she doesn't want him to keep the home, doesn't want him bringing any "whores" into HER home, has saw a lawyer for an initial consult, etc ...
His main concern is should he be moving back into the matrimonial home ASAP (spare bedroom of course) or continue on as is and push forward for the house to be sold? He really doesn't WANT to move back in but he also doesn't want to end up screwing himself over.
Right now both their paycheques still go into their joint account so all the bills are being paid. She makes approx. $40,000/yr and him just under $80,000.
He's at the point now where he just wants resolution. Wants to be able to either buy her out or sell ... he really doesn't care which but wants to be able to open his own bank account and not have her questioning him if he withdraws $40 to go golfing or to eat out, etc ...
I've given him my old Separation Agreement and told him to follow it and change it according to his situation but he hasn't done this yet. I'm trying to get both of them to avoid lawyers if at all possible because as we all know, the costs are stupid & lawyers end up causing more hostility & anger so they can rack up their billable hours. But the wife is now past the grieving stage and is PISSED OFF and bitter & exceptionally hostile and not really willing to "talk" or "negotiate".
He's afraid that by him leaving the home (even though he's literally 10 houses down the street) it's going to come back to bite him on the ass somehow. My only fear is that wife can & will drag this on indefinitely and why not since the household income is still the same as they still have same bank account, she's living in the 3800 sq ft home while he's in a bedroom at his parents. Why should she be in a hurry to disrupt her life, kwim?
Advice?
Couple married over 15 yrs. Have 2 kids ages 15 (girl) & 14 (boy)
Husband left wife 8 wks ago and left the matrimonial home but moved just down the street & into his parents home. See's kids every day either in mornings before work or after work.
Kids either want to live primarily with him and/or 50/50 split (depending on their moods at the time).
After him being gone approx. 4 weeks, wife realizes that he's NOT coming back & they start talking about options (selling home, one of them keeping home so kids' don't have their home-base disrupted, etc.). Wife agree's that husband should keep the home as she can't afford it.
Now 4 weeks after that and after he's gone to the bank to ensure he can pay her out, get a new mortgage, etc ... she's come back to him saying that she doesn't want him to keep the home, doesn't want him bringing any "whores" into HER home, has saw a lawyer for an initial consult, etc ...
His main concern is should he be moving back into the matrimonial home ASAP (spare bedroom of course) or continue on as is and push forward for the house to be sold? He really doesn't WANT to move back in but he also doesn't want to end up screwing himself over.
Right now both their paycheques still go into their joint account so all the bills are being paid. She makes approx. $40,000/yr and him just under $80,000.
He's at the point now where he just wants resolution. Wants to be able to either buy her out or sell ... he really doesn't care which but wants to be able to open his own bank account and not have her questioning him if he withdraws $40 to go golfing or to eat out, etc ...
I've given him my old Separation Agreement and told him to follow it and change it according to his situation but he hasn't done this yet. I'm trying to get both of them to avoid lawyers if at all possible because as we all know, the costs are stupid & lawyers end up causing more hostility & anger so they can rack up their billable hours. But the wife is now past the grieving stage and is PISSED OFF and bitter & exceptionally hostile and not really willing to "talk" or "negotiate".
He's afraid that by him leaving the home (even though he's literally 10 houses down the street) it's going to come back to bite him on the ass somehow. My only fear is that wife can & will drag this on indefinitely and why not since the household income is still the same as they still have same bank account, she's living in the 3800 sq ft home while he's in a bedroom at his parents. Why should she be in a hurry to disrupt her life, kwim?
Advice?
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