My husband and I have been apart since March 2005 and divorced in July 2008. We have a child support agreement from October 2006 signed and witnessed. He started paying when I moved into my own house in February 2007. At the time I had 3 children living with me 18 16 and 14 and all attending school. My eldest starting running into difficulty and ended up living with him from late March till she moved out on her own in Sept. She was working at the time and going to school paying with student loans and her part time job.
Unfortunately the pressure of it all proved to be too much for her, she became quite depressed and attempted suicide in june of 2008. She then came back to live with me and due to her mental condition was unable to go to school or work and was completely dependant on me financially and emotionally. My ex husband refused to pay child support for all 3 children even though he knew the circumstances and my daughters unstable emotional state. I was forced to register our child support aggreement with the courts and FRO. He only paid for 2 children and skipped several payments which caused him to accummulate arrears. Then in July 2009 he stopped paying child support completely and in September he applied to the courts for a variance to have the child support decreased also saying that he's been over paying and I owe him 17,000 in over payments. According to the FRO he is over $15,000 in arrears and we are currently going through lawyers to solve this. He keeps asking me to call the FRO and stop their actions and the accummulation of arrears. He tells me that I will end up losing in court so he'll stop the action if I stop the FRO and he says he'll give me post dated cheques for a fraction of the child support I was getting. We've been down that road before and I had to chase down every cheque and dealt with some NSF cheques and him arbitrarily deducting money from the child support when he felt he spent something on the children and I owed it to him. I've become unsure of myself and worried about the out come. I'm having some financial difficulties and I'm worried that I may end up having to sell my house to make debt payments and pay lawyers fees.
Very confused and worried and feeling the pressure....if anyone can advise I'd appreciate it.
Cat
Unfortunately the pressure of it all proved to be too much for her, she became quite depressed and attempted suicide in june of 2008. She then came back to live with me and due to her mental condition was unable to go to school or work and was completely dependant on me financially and emotionally. My ex husband refused to pay child support for all 3 children even though he knew the circumstances and my daughters unstable emotional state. I was forced to register our child support aggreement with the courts and FRO. He only paid for 2 children and skipped several payments which caused him to accummulate arrears. Then in July 2009 he stopped paying child support completely and in September he applied to the courts for a variance to have the child support decreased also saying that he's been over paying and I owe him 17,000 in over payments. According to the FRO he is over $15,000 in arrears and we are currently going through lawyers to solve this. He keeps asking me to call the FRO and stop their actions and the accummulation of arrears. He tells me that I will end up losing in court so he'll stop the action if I stop the FRO and he says he'll give me post dated cheques for a fraction of the child support I was getting. We've been down that road before and I had to chase down every cheque and dealt with some NSF cheques and him arbitrarily deducting money from the child support when he felt he spent something on the children and I owed it to him. I've become unsure of myself and worried about the out come. I'm having some financial difficulties and I'm worried that I may end up having to sell my house to make debt payments and pay lawyers fees.
Very confused and worried and feeling the pressure....if anyone can advise I'd appreciate it.
Cat
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