There is a big difference between a reality check and rudeness.
An insult doesn't have to be delivered in a back-handed fashion to a newbie who's world is crashing in around them.
A caring wake-up call (slap?) will convey the message better that a flippant remark that does nothing to help the situation (and usually drives the insulted to further response defensitively - a person who already feels under attack).
Remarks that involve hindsight are particularity not helpful.
IMHO
An insult doesn't have to be delivered in a back-handed fashion to a newbie who's world is crashing in around them.
A caring wake-up call (slap?) will convey the message better that a flippant remark that does nothing to help the situation (and usually drives the insulted to further response defensitively - a person who already feels under attack).
Remarks that involve hindsight are particularity not helpful.
IMHO
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