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Old 07-06-2014, 05:33 PM
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here is the situation,
I got custody, ex ditched our son for several months with no contact, then she asked for skype access which I agreed to.

every time over skype; she asks our son to turn the camera around and show her something in the home, I know her nature, she is very nosy i feel my privacy is being violated, does she have the right to ask him to move the camera around? how do i address this?
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Old 07-06-2014, 06:15 PM
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It's a room in your house not a window to your soul. Lighten up it's not a thing to argue about unless you really enjoy some conflict.
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Old 07-06-2014, 06:28 PM
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It's a room in your house not a window to your soul. Lighten up it's not a thing to argue about unless you really enjoy some conflict.
I agree. Not worth the argument. Are you in the room when she asks the child to do this?
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Old 07-06-2014, 07:33 PM
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I agree. Not worth the argument. Are you in the room when she asks the child to do this?
yes, unfortunately he is autistic and can hurt himself if unattended. i guess my irritation comes from the history that she has violated my privacy in the past (digging through my emails, forwarding some of them to her family etc, opening envelopes that I had sealed and so forth. long story) i guess i am just seeing it as a continuation of her past behavior. may be you guys are right and i should just let it be..
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Old 07-06-2014, 08:28 PM
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Do you have a room in your house where there are little items? If you have a lap top, can you set it up in your sons room and do the skype calls in there? That way she can only see what is in his room.

I can understand where you are coming from, my step children often facetime with their Mom, they walk around the house while doing it, showing her the dogs or cats or their rooms or painting they made, but the whole time she basically gets a digital tour of our house. We just go about our normal business.
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Old 07-06-2014, 09:02 PM
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Fo to the library. They have excellent WIFI and nice quiet places. That is where daughter often goes for skype chats with Dad.
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Old 07-06-2014, 09:18 PM
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Have the computer and camera set hard to move so fhe kid cant move it. Dont fight with her over it.
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Old 07-06-2014, 10:50 PM
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Its not really that important is it? You have nothing to hide, so who cares?
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Old 07-06-2014, 10:55 PM
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I'd have some fun with this.

Put up a whole bunch of religious artifacts on the wall (not of your own religion but that of a really far-out, strange one). Or you could buy a bunch of those cheapo black frames at the dollar store and frame pictures of beautiful women you cut out of a magazine.
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Old 07-07-2014, 12:44 AM
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lol @ Arabian!

I work with with autistic children.

Perhaps you could use visuals (first, then, then) -- you'll know what mean, with his reinforcer waiting at the end. What do you mean he can harm himself? Something like "Pica syndrome" or self-injurious behavior (head banging?) Perhaps your ex can use his personal interests to keep him occupied. (Superman/SpongeBob pics while talking, etc).

Like the others I wouldn't worry too much about it.
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