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Old 05-28-2013, 03:54 PM
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At least you slept on a Futon...I believe I have mentioned what am sleeping on in a number of posts
I had bought a new bed and pillow top mattress a year earlier. I wasn't allowed to have them, my ex made a number of arbitrary decisions like that, but it wasn't worth fighting.

Futons are cheap, you should get one. Get the real ones, not the foam kind.
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Old 06-14-2013, 03:37 PM
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I received the signed separation agreement today and it's going to be turned into a court order.

Now I have to finish closing the house and file for the divorce.

Thanks everyone for all the great advice.
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Old 06-14-2013, 03:42 PM
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I received the signed separation agreement today and it's going to be turned into a court order.

Now I have to finish closing the house and file for the divorce.

Thanks everyone for all the great advice.
Change the Locks!!!
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I received the signed separation agreement today and it's going to be turned into a court order.

Now I have to finish closing the house and file for the divorce.

Thanks everyone for all the great advice.
Great news, congratulations!
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Old 06-14-2013, 04:25 PM
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Yay FB_!!

I hope it gives you some relief and some peace.

Congratulations.

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Old 06-16-2013, 09:47 PM
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Wow.....Perseverance or what :-) Turn that damn thing into a court order right ASAP, and file for that divorce (should take 3 months or so).

How is all that garbage removal coming along? Can't wait to see pics of the finished work
I've had the kids since Wednesday so not much house work has been done. I went through some of the toys with the kids this weekend. Of course the stuff we found they haven't seen in a year so it was like a new toy and they wanted to keep it.

I was able to put some new blinds ups.

I went to get my marriage certificate back from my ex on Wednesday turns out it's just a record of marriage so I have to pay to get the real certificate just to send it in and have it shredded. So stupid. Oh well.
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Old 06-16-2013, 09:51 PM
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I went through some of the toys with the kids this weekend. Of course the stuff we found they haven't seen in a year so it was like a new toy and they wanted to keep it.
When my kids were little it was sometimes difficult for them to part with stuff.

I let them keep a box in their closet for the stuff that they couldn't give away. It wasn't a big box, just big enough to keep a stuffed toy and a couple of other small toys. They felt better at cleaning and purging if they didn't have to give it all away.

Most of the time they never went back into the box again. The next time we did a purge, about a year later, most of the stuff they had saved was given away.

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Old 06-16-2013, 11:51 PM
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Sometimes it makes it easier when you explain to your kids that you are going to go through their things with them to pick out things for children who have no toys. Then you can take them with you to a donation place. Teaches kids at a young age to be grateful for everything they have and to think of others who have nothing. You can keep a special box in the basement and encourage the kids to put things in there throughout the year.
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So on Jan 13th my ex wife gave me verbal notice that she was moving 8 hours away on Jan 25th. She was mentally unwell and the kids would be with me full time. She has been off work yet again due to mental illness. She has new children with 2 different baby daddies. She is now married to baby daddy number 3. She pulled one of those kids from the school (Same school as 11yo) and registered him in the new city. Husband is still here working apparently. Not sure what's going on with their marriage but he may move once he finds a job.

Kids are still attending school in Brampton (Her home school). I'm currently living in Milton. So the kids are now at "orphaned" schools. They are now 11 (grade 6) and 14 (grade 9). I'm currently driving and picking them up each day. $600 407 bill vs the $300 I've been used to.

I had already started the process of having their school changed to Milton but need some paperwork and consent from my ex. She said if they are changing schools they are moving here with me. Yeah... That's not going to F**KIN' happen. So needless to say she won't consent to a school change.

Feb 1st came and went I didn't send her any CS and she certainly hasn't offered any to me.

I've already started the paperwork for a new motion asking for a TEMPORARY order for Child Support and an order for consent to have their schools changed.

Just not sure if this is the best first step. I've already edited our agreement to be the terms that I like going forward and thought of just sending it to her as a starting point but honestly it's just going to cause a fight. I might be better off just serving her and getting a case conference started.

My asks would be as follows

Basically primary residence with me
She pays me CS
She can have access in the other town at her own cost based on our existing agreement. With an update that it's 2 weekends per month (which she won't be able to do) She can have March break, Easter, 5 of 9 summer weeks (Currently it's 4/5 one year and 5/4 the next), Thanksgiving, and Christmas is to stay the same one week each alternating Christmas day each year.

Hopefully this won't require another huge fight but I know she isn't going to want to pay me any CS. Her table amount is a little over $700. I don't know what she did with her job. She was employed full time but on mental leave. I don't know if her moving affects that. I'm guessing she just won't work going forward and will show $0 income.

Wish me luck and let me know if going right to a case conference would probably be the best first step.

I also wondered if this is considered an emergency motion, but from what I've read the kids are not in danger so I don't think so. I am worried that the kids don't have a house to go to in the neighborhood now so I'm not sure if that would be something that would allow me to push a temporary order through quickly.

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Not an emergency motion. MSG me.
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