Whereas I think that we should just drop this, I did not mean to imply that the law should be ignored.
You are not a law enforcement officer (I presume anyway). Your job is not to police your ex. If he gets caught by the police, that is his problem. The direction of the thread was that non-use of a car seat should result in filing with the CAS.
Filing with the CAS will destroy any possibility of any communication between two parents. This is not a positive thing to do for the child. It is only positive if the alternative is that the child is in immediate danger from the other parent.
In the example given in the original post it is not even clear what the situation is. The father is likely just being dismissive when the mother complains; "I'll do whatever I want". That doesn't mean he doesn't care about his child's safety, it means he doesn't care to hear nagging from his ex. We can all relate to that.
Reports from children can be misleading. When my child was 6 he told me that he never has to brush his teeth at momma's house. I didn't rush to call the CAS because I simply didn't believe him. I do believe that he may have skipped the odd day, or some days not eaten vegetables, or whatever else he says he doesn't have to do, but I don't believe it is a daily occurance simply because he says so.
Calling the police on the ex or calling the CAS will destroy any hope of an amicable situation where the parents can co-operate and trust each other. If you think doing this over a car seat is worthwhile, that is your decision. It would not be my decision.
If my example and reasoning were unclear earlier, hopefully they are clearer now. I still detest your style of response but I will let it go.
You are not a law enforcement officer (I presume anyway). Your job is not to police your ex. If he gets caught by the police, that is his problem. The direction of the thread was that non-use of a car seat should result in filing with the CAS.
Filing with the CAS will destroy any possibility of any communication between two parents. This is not a positive thing to do for the child. It is only positive if the alternative is that the child is in immediate danger from the other parent.
In the example given in the original post it is not even clear what the situation is. The father is likely just being dismissive when the mother complains; "I'll do whatever I want". That doesn't mean he doesn't care about his child's safety, it means he doesn't care to hear nagging from his ex. We can all relate to that.
Reports from children can be misleading. When my child was 6 he told me that he never has to brush his teeth at momma's house. I didn't rush to call the CAS because I simply didn't believe him. I do believe that he may have skipped the odd day, or some days not eaten vegetables, or whatever else he says he doesn't have to do, but I don't believe it is a daily occurance simply because he says so.
Calling the police on the ex or calling the CAS will destroy any hope of an amicable situation where the parents can co-operate and trust each other. If you think doing this over a car seat is worthwhile, that is your decision. It would not be my decision.
If my example and reasoning were unclear earlier, hopefully they are clearer now. I still detest your style of response but I will let it go.
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