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#1
11-27-2017, 04:45 PM
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Change in Situation * Child moving back
Good afternoon,
I know that in the law, the 'first' family always has precedent meaning that, child support for child 1 cannot be reduced based on new responsibilities towards the new family. But anyone has any idea on how the following situation would play out? Child 1: This child was born but no real relationship ever existed between mom and dad but dad as always paid CS... would see child every other weekend and summers... child lived primarily with mom. Child 2-3: those children are from a 10 year relationship. Now separated since 2 years... paying over $1200 in child support... on top of support for child number 1... This is also a situation of kids living primarily with mom due to distance between dad's residence and mom's residence... Child 1 has been living with her grandmother for over a year since she doesn't like her step father (she's 14 and the step dad has been in her life since she was 3)... Dad had asked grandma if he wanted to get the support paid directly to her.. she said no... Now, seems like grandma will move and child 1 is stating that she may not be able to live with her grandma (not sure why) .. and that she doesn't want to go back to live with her mom... Here is my question. If she was to come and live with us, would this count as a change in situation and since his responsibility would increase having his 14 year old live full time with us, could a reduction of child support for the 'second' family be considered... He presently pays $375 a month for child 1 and other things as there is a need... Having her full time would certainly increase the cost since the mother doesn't make much money and not much support would be anticipated. 
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#2
11-27-2017, 05:04 PM
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Hes still obligated to pay support for his kids regardless of family one two or three. He is looking at hardship and that is difficult to argue and the entire household income will come into play.
The mother will still be obligated to pay. Time to tighten your belts and make some savings choices. This is a good thing that his daughter wants to live with him!!
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#3
11-27-2017, 05:31 PM
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I never said that he would not pay support anymore... I was talking about cases when the amount can be reduced... and oh trust me... we are not big spenders... and our belt is pretty tight as it is... I also have kids of my own which are 50/50.. I get no child support since my ex and I make pretty much the same... and barely any Gov. benefits since our combined income is higher. When you take into consideration basic things such as mortgage, electricity, car payments, insurance, etc... in the end, the NET that is left to pay, the mother of child 2-3 that gets over $1200 makes $150 LESS than us... I also have my dad living with me as a dependant... so the standard of living test would not work for her... since in the end, with the money that she gets from the Gov.. and being in a low tax bracket... she makes almost more than us... combined... she has 2 kids.. we have 5 between the 2 of us plus my dad...
I am in agreement with you that IF she would want to live with us it would be a good thing... but I doubt it since it was offered to her before but we live 1 hour away from where she lives presently ... all that to say that we are looking at how we could make this work ... (and we would not say no based on that).. but looking at options since now, technically, her living with us would have a significant change on our budget...
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#4
11-27-2017, 06:24 PM
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I don’t see how the cost of her moving in would be such an issue... Dad would be saving $375 a month from the support he pays mom and plus mom would have to pay CS... which even if it was only $100 a month (which I’m sure it would be more than that), that’s almost an extra $500 a month. Things like mortgage, car payment, insurance, etc would not change. Hydro might increase, a little increase in food costs but the reality is having her there won’t cost more than $500 a month.
His CS amount won’t change if she moves in, seeing as he will have more disposable income Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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#5
11-27-2017, 08:31 PM
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You wont be able to argue to have cs reduced and saying its kids from second marriage means nothing. Technically they are now number 1 kids because first family child is living with dad.
He should have thought about this when he had more kids and then split again and took up with wife #3.
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#6
11-28-2017, 09:47 AM
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I agree with this... I have always wanted a large family, at least 4-5 kids but when I married my husband I knew that would be far fetched... I have two amazing step children who are 12 and 9, I knew his responsibilities towards them when I married him... they live with their mother so he pays full CS... we just had our first child together 3 weeks ago... I realize this may be my only biological child because by the time I would want to have another his son would be getting close to post secondary, plus the children have other expenses such as sports, etc. So I have come to terms that my “large family” actually consists of two step and one biological child but I have three children and I am okay with that. I will never understand why new partners look for ways to reduce their husbands CS... I mean I get it, it sucks having a large chunk of your household income going towards another household but that’s what happens when you marry someone with children. There shouldn’t be any “his” and “mine” all children should be “ours”... at least that’s the way I see these situations. Remember none of the children asked for this to be their lives Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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#7
11-28-2017, 10:35 AM
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These kids now live with mom, who moved away. So he made a decision not to have more access and to let her move them, or at least not fight this move away which is the same thing. He pays CS for two more children on top of his previous CS obligation. So far so good still. Quote:
Now grandma is moving away and kid #1 doesn't want to move with her. Poor kid! Hated her situation with Mom #1, found a place with grandma instead, and now that is falling apart beneath her. This kid just wants a safe home where she can be a kid, in her stable city, with her existing friends. She probably doesn't want to move in with her dad in another city any more than she wants grandma to move away or to have her mom choose a stepfather over her. THAT should be the priority in all this, finding a good living situation for this kid and getting her life stabilized. I also worry considerably about a situation in which living with a stepfather became intolerable for a girl as she hit puberty. I don't like what that implies. At all. Quote:
Nothing else changes though. Why should kids #2 and #3 suffer because of the events in kid #1's life? There's no reason to lower their CS. It doesn't matter that he now lives with you, your father and your own half-time children. Those people are your financial obligation, not his. The fact that you have financially teamed up with this man helps you both. The lesson, as always, is not to take on financial obligations (ie, having more kids) than you cannot afford. The priority here though, as I said, is making sure kid #1 makes it through this upheaval in her life as well as possible. Money is secondary.
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#8
11-28-2017, 04:18 PM
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[QUOTE=Berner_Faith;225608]I agree with this... I have always wanted a large family, at least 4-5 kids but when I married my husband I knew that would be far fetched... I have two amazing step children who are 12 and 9, I knew his responsibilities towards them when I married him... they live with their mother so he pays full CS... we just had our first child together 3 weeks ago... I realize this may be my only biological child because by the time I would want to have another his son would be getting close to post secondary, plus the children have other expenses such as sports, etc. So I have come to terms that my “large family” actually consists of two step and one biological child but I have three children and I am okay with that.
I will never understand why new partners look for ways to reduce their husbands CS Because sometimes in life the situation changes... whether it's a loss of a job, sickness or a new dependant sometimes things change that have an impact on the family financially... and having a child live with us full time would mean that we would need a bigger house cause at this moment, we only have 3 bedrooms... which would not work to have a total of 5 kids ... I mean I get it, it sucks having a large chunk of your household income going towards another household but that’s what happens when you marry someone with children. There shouldn’t be any “his” and “mine” all children should be “ours”... I agree... if you read the post below it states the total opposite.. that my dad and MY children are MY responsibility... We live together so to me everyone under that roof is OUR responsibility... at least that’s the way I see these situations. Remember none of the children asked for this to be their lives And that is why we try to make it the best that we can for them and even if really money is tight because of the large amount of support, we still make a budget for him and his kids to do something special like going away for an evening for example...
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#9
11-28-2017, 04:21 PM
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He is looking at hardship and that is difficult to argue and the entire household income will come into play.
Thank you that is the answer I was looking for... and with the entire household income (and responsibilities) it would be clear that we are below hers... and not because we spend a lot cause we don't..
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#10
11-28-2017, 04:26 PM
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Nope nope nope nope and nope. He has three kids period. He is responsible for those three kids period. If YOU have a problem with it then YOU should not have gotten involved with him. And if YOU wanted to stay with him then YOU need to stop trying to get HIM out of HIS obligations. PERIOD! My partner has lost his job, run out of EI, dropped his savings and still paid his child support and s7. Why? Because he has an obligation to his kids. Your partner needs to deal with his problems. Will it be tight? Probably but others survive on less. I grew up in a three bedroom townhouse with five siblings. We lived on welfare. We survived.
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