Hi all,
looking for some more advice re: Spousal Support in Ontario.
So far I have spent $12,000.00 in legal fees and we are still not fully settled yet.
Quick catch-up
Common-law 6 years with 3 beautiful kids who live with her.
Seperated October 2009
Joint home has been sold and equity from home finally has been released (June 2012) and a good amount of debt has been paid out. Agreement signed and witnessed in front of both lawyers and judge signed off.
We have been able to keep this between us & the lawyer's and out of court.
Where we are now:
Well, last time this was all to be finalized she dropped the bombshell of wanting to move my kids out of city over 1 hour away. Of course I could not committ to this and we told the lawyers we would need to meet again.
She is only working as daycare and has now moved into another rental home (her best friend own this property) with our kids.
Have agreed to joint custody with her as the custodian parent
I am paying my time tabled child support amount each and every month
Here is my question:
She e-mailed me the other day after a telephone call with my kids. When I call I am always made to talk on speaker phone even when I request to take it off. My GF bought me (b-day) vacation down south which I told my kids about when I see them in person. My oldest asked me on the phone where I was and I said 'I will tell you again when I have you this week end'. It is my feeling that my ex does not need to know what I do or go as I do not request that information from her.
I also got my first cell-phone because texting makes it easier for me to say I am calling the kids etc instead of machine message after message. It cost me $12 more per month than my home phone.
My ex took it personal that I would not tell my son where I went (she yelled Woowwwwwwwwwww on the line). I then get an e-mail from her saying that her lawyer will be in touch and that all finances will be discussed again and support etc.
I got served documents in June of 2011, filing to the court, her asking for everything etc. I just feel this is sort of a low blow here. My youngest just started JK this year and the other two are f/t in school. I just do not think she wants to go back to work and I have paid on time every single month + took an additional $6250 in credit debt + gave her all the furniture from the house ($4750) and through e-mail agreed that this would also be a spousal settlement. Although she never signed that amended agreement from my lawyer and like I said I am $12,000.00 in and want to keep costs at a minimum here.
So how long can she keep going back and looking to get more $$ out of me. I am trying hard to get out of debt asap but it seems kinda pointless if only then she can say 'oh you can now afford to pay me more' etc.
My lawyer said that even 6 years of commonlaw with 3 kids she could theoretically get spousal for 17 years?????????????? Please help.
looking for some more advice re: Spousal Support in Ontario.
So far I have spent $12,000.00 in legal fees and we are still not fully settled yet.
Quick catch-up
Common-law 6 years with 3 beautiful kids who live with her.
Seperated October 2009
Joint home has been sold and equity from home finally has been released (June 2012) and a good amount of debt has been paid out. Agreement signed and witnessed in front of both lawyers and judge signed off.
We have been able to keep this between us & the lawyer's and out of court.
Where we are now:
Well, last time this was all to be finalized she dropped the bombshell of wanting to move my kids out of city over 1 hour away. Of course I could not committ to this and we told the lawyers we would need to meet again.
She is only working as daycare and has now moved into another rental home (her best friend own this property) with our kids.
Have agreed to joint custody with her as the custodian parent
I am paying my time tabled child support amount each and every month
Here is my question:
She e-mailed me the other day after a telephone call with my kids. When I call I am always made to talk on speaker phone even when I request to take it off. My GF bought me (b-day) vacation down south which I told my kids about when I see them in person. My oldest asked me on the phone where I was and I said 'I will tell you again when I have you this week end'. It is my feeling that my ex does not need to know what I do or go as I do not request that information from her.
I also got my first cell-phone because texting makes it easier for me to say I am calling the kids etc instead of machine message after message. It cost me $12 more per month than my home phone.
My ex took it personal that I would not tell my son where I went (she yelled Woowwwwwwwwwww on the line). I then get an e-mail from her saying that her lawyer will be in touch and that all finances will be discussed again and support etc.
I got served documents in June of 2011, filing to the court, her asking for everything etc. I just feel this is sort of a low blow here. My youngest just started JK this year and the other two are f/t in school. I just do not think she wants to go back to work and I have paid on time every single month + took an additional $6250 in credit debt + gave her all the furniture from the house ($4750) and through e-mail agreed that this would also be a spousal settlement. Although she never signed that amended agreement from my lawyer and like I said I am $12,000.00 in and want to keep costs at a minimum here.
So how long can she keep going back and looking to get more $$ out of me. I am trying hard to get out of debt asap but it seems kinda pointless if only then she can say 'oh you can now afford to pay me more' etc.
My lawyer said that even 6 years of commonlaw with 3 kids she could theoretically get spousal for 17 years?????????????? Please help.
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