I joined this forum a few years ago looking for advice when my then spouse was going through court with his ex, and now we are separating and shock of shocks he is being challenging.
After years of infidelity and me trying to get past it he wants to go find happiness.
By all means, on your way.
Challenges we are currently facing:
He would like kids 50/50. The challenge - 1 child is ours, 2 are mine and I have sole custody of them. He would like me to drop that sole custody order so he can have joint custody of them. He is undeniably driven by money in this. We are very close in income (about $1000 separates us). However that is when you add in what he is paid in cash when he works overtime. He has indicated he won't work overtime anymore if that means I make more and he will ensure I pay him.
He has worked hours that in my opinion won't allow 50/50 that will benefit the children (won't be home in time to get kids to practice, or feed them dinner before 7). This would leave my 12 year old in charge of the kids until he gets home from work or cooking meals on his week. I believe this is unfair to her. This is based on the last 2 years of his career. I have proposed a 60/40 split which removes most work nights so alleviate this.
The kids (older 2 - mine) do not want 50/50. The youngest (ours) does not know what is going on right now. I am not opposed to 50/50 for him. He is his child.
Has anyone seen two different access arrangements happen with step children and bio children? My children do not see their bio father due to safety issues so their step father is their "dad".
I am open to thoughts on this and experience. I have not been able to find case on this but if there is and anyone can point me in the right direction I would appreciate it.
After years of infidelity and me trying to get past it he wants to go find happiness.
By all means, on your way.
Challenges we are currently facing:
He would like kids 50/50. The challenge - 1 child is ours, 2 are mine and I have sole custody of them. He would like me to drop that sole custody order so he can have joint custody of them. He is undeniably driven by money in this. We are very close in income (about $1000 separates us). However that is when you add in what he is paid in cash when he works overtime. He has indicated he won't work overtime anymore if that means I make more and he will ensure I pay him.
He has worked hours that in my opinion won't allow 50/50 that will benefit the children (won't be home in time to get kids to practice, or feed them dinner before 7). This would leave my 12 year old in charge of the kids until he gets home from work or cooking meals on his week. I believe this is unfair to her. This is based on the last 2 years of his career. I have proposed a 60/40 split which removes most work nights so alleviate this.
The kids (older 2 - mine) do not want 50/50. The youngest (ours) does not know what is going on right now. I am not opposed to 50/50 for him. He is his child.
Has anyone seen two different access arrangements happen with step children and bio children? My children do not see their bio father due to safety issues so their step father is their "dad".
I am open to thoughts on this and experience. I have not been able to find case on this but if there is and anyone can point me in the right direction I would appreciate it.
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