Good day all,
I'm in need of some advice. My ex and I are officially divorced. I'm trying to finalize things by forcing the sale of the matrimonial home, but am being met with high resistance. Due to failed negotiations and lack of cooperative involvement, I managed to get an order for the sale of the home. The home is being divided evenly between us, and I completely agree with this. My problem is that I'm being blamed for it all. My ex's reasoning to my kids is that she cannot afford anything locally, so she has to quit her job, move 3 hours away to move in with her boyfriend and take my youngest daughter with her (to a strange city, away from her friends, family, school...). My daughter is 16 and can make up her mind, but I feel she may not know what in her best interest. I've had her in counselling for the last 2 years and it's helped, but this would be a major change. She hasn't told me that she's doing that (as she's afraid it will upset me), but I've heard from other sources that this is happening. I've been through a lot of counselling and am preparing myself for this to happen (as much as one could). I want to be supportive and to let her know I love her and will always be here for her. My question is this... I'm not rich and cannot afford to drive 6 hours, every other weekend (plus a hotel) to see my daughter. I'm going to be severed from my daughter, with whom I love so much and has so many of my characteristics. She's very smart, talented and beautiful (inside and out). How does one cope with rarely (or ever) seeing their child? I know her mother isn't encouraging her (or her sisters) relationship with me. This has been told to me from the start. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
I'm in need of some advice. My ex and I are officially divorced. I'm trying to finalize things by forcing the sale of the matrimonial home, but am being met with high resistance. Due to failed negotiations and lack of cooperative involvement, I managed to get an order for the sale of the home. The home is being divided evenly between us, and I completely agree with this. My problem is that I'm being blamed for it all. My ex's reasoning to my kids is that she cannot afford anything locally, so she has to quit her job, move 3 hours away to move in with her boyfriend and take my youngest daughter with her (to a strange city, away from her friends, family, school...). My daughter is 16 and can make up her mind, but I feel she may not know what in her best interest. I've had her in counselling for the last 2 years and it's helped, but this would be a major change. She hasn't told me that she's doing that (as she's afraid it will upset me), but I've heard from other sources that this is happening. I've been through a lot of counselling and am preparing myself for this to happen (as much as one could). I want to be supportive and to let her know I love her and will always be here for her. My question is this... I'm not rich and cannot afford to drive 6 hours, every other weekend (plus a hotel) to see my daughter. I'm going to be severed from my daughter, with whom I love so much and has so many of my characteristics. She's very smart, talented and beautiful (inside and out). How does one cope with rarely (or ever) seeing their child? I know her mother isn't encouraging her (or her sisters) relationship with me. This has been told to me from the start. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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