hi – im hitting an parenting issue, and I’m looking for some prospective from people who have been here.
Been divorced for 5 years. Son and mother live 400km away.
Started with every other weekend, and ˝ holidays.
I brought a motion to change forward 2 years ago, signed on consent last fall changed to: all PD days, holiday weekends, 6 weeks in summer, every other March break and Easter. This was due to distances, and my work schedule. (Mother didn’t want to change, had to use court)
Son (11) has stated that he doesn’t want to come here for 6 weeks – wants to spend 3 to 4 weeks here total. His reasoning is that he wants to spend the summer with his friends.
His mother says she’s “staying neutral” (gee, thanks). Summer would be 3 x 1 week and 1 x 3 weeks (this is a function of work and planned trips)
So far I’ve tried moving things around little for him – and have told him that if he’s here, and really wants to leave id send him back to his mothers.
Before anyone asks he has his own room, PS4, toys, etc here. I put him in day camps which align with what he likes – and have told him that he can bring friends up to stay sometimes.
As a parent, what do you suggest?
I’m telling him the schedule stays. I’m getting daily texts from him and his mother wanting to change it.
Been divorced for 5 years. Son and mother live 400km away.
Started with every other weekend, and ˝ holidays.
I brought a motion to change forward 2 years ago, signed on consent last fall changed to: all PD days, holiday weekends, 6 weeks in summer, every other March break and Easter. This was due to distances, and my work schedule. (Mother didn’t want to change, had to use court)
Son (11) has stated that he doesn’t want to come here for 6 weeks – wants to spend 3 to 4 weeks here total. His reasoning is that he wants to spend the summer with his friends.
His mother says she’s “staying neutral” (gee, thanks). Summer would be 3 x 1 week and 1 x 3 weeks (this is a function of work and planned trips)
So far I’ve tried moving things around little for him – and have told him that if he’s here, and really wants to leave id send him back to his mothers.
Before anyone asks he has his own room, PS4, toys, etc here. I put him in day camps which align with what he likes – and have told him that he can bring friends up to stay sometimes.
As a parent, what do you suggest?
I’m telling him the schedule stays. I’m getting daily texts from him and his mother wanting to change it.
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