A cousin of mine recently approached me asking some questions regarding his issues with his divorce. Knowing what I've been going through, he thought I might know. I told him what I though but I wasn't totally sure about how right or wrong I am. I told him I'd find out the answers for him. So here goes:
My cousin has been separated for 5 years. He and his wife have a 23 year old son who is currently living with the wife and working full-time at a coffee shop.
When their son was 18 and they were still together, the child went to university. Due to the parent's limited income, he received a student loan and lived at home during this time. After a year the son flunked out of school. Shortly afterwards my cousin and his wife split up and he moved out. The son remained in the home with the wife until a year later when he moved out to live with his girlfriend. He was then working at the coffee shop. He and his girlfriend lived together for a year and then he decided to move back home with the mother, who is unemployed. He was still working at the coffee shop then and continues to do so while living with his mother.
Recently my cousin was offered a settlement by his wifes lawyer. He is happy with most of it except one part in particular which states that the now 23 year old son may be returning to post secondary in the near future and wants support for that.
My cousin is baffled by this as am I. It was my impression that once the 'child' has in any way removed themselves from parental control, as his son did by living with his girlfriend for a year, and even though he chose to move back with mom because his girlfriend broke up with him, how is it possible that they could now come looking for my cousin to put the 23 year old through school? Am I right that this is ridiculous?
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GDGM
My cousin has been separated for 5 years. He and his wife have a 23 year old son who is currently living with the wife and working full-time at a coffee shop.
When their son was 18 and they were still together, the child went to university. Due to the parent's limited income, he received a student loan and lived at home during this time. After a year the son flunked out of school. Shortly afterwards my cousin and his wife split up and he moved out. The son remained in the home with the wife until a year later when he moved out to live with his girlfriend. He was then working at the coffee shop. He and his girlfriend lived together for a year and then he decided to move back home with the mother, who is unemployed. He was still working at the coffee shop then and continues to do so while living with his mother.
Recently my cousin was offered a settlement by his wifes lawyer. He is happy with most of it except one part in particular which states that the now 23 year old son may be returning to post secondary in the near future and wants support for that.
My cousin is baffled by this as am I. It was my impression that once the 'child' has in any way removed themselves from parental control, as his son did by living with his girlfriend for a year, and even though he chose to move back with mom because his girlfriend broke up with him, how is it possible that they could now come looking for my cousin to put the 23 year old through school? Am I right that this is ridiculous?
Thanks
GDGM
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