Originally posted by Mess
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To the contrary to your argument based on ad hominem (hominem) the questions being posed to obtain a better perspective of the situation so better advice can be proposed. Again, without any cogent evidence you are assuming I am sighting information to "label" someone but, it is done to insure that labels are not applied. I counter statements with examination questions that would lead to a better solution if answered. Possibly better advice from all responding to the thread.
Originally posted by Mess
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From the correspondence provided (the only evidence I have to evaluate) and on a balance of probability I don't disagree that the poster has been abused. This is my personal opinion based on responses against the posters current thread and past thread.
My concern, is that often times the past conduct of an abusive spouse, if it has gone untreated has a cyclic effect. Furthermore, I am concerned that the spouse of the poster based on her detailed accounts of this abuse may exhibit behaviour patterns of possibly a Cluster B Axis II disordered individual.
Often times, these individuals prey on the anxieties of the other parent and "walk the boarder" in their conduct to drive the other parent to do things so they can gather evidence. One of the common tactics that these people often do is force situations where it causes the other parent to raise issues with 3rd party organizations. My concern is that the poster may be being sucked into one of the other parents calculated schemes.
You can co-parent (better to parallel parent) with someone exhibiting an Axis II disorder of any cluster but, it takes a lot of awareness.
I do respect the posters decision to jointly parent their children. It is a noble and good reason. My concern is that the other parent's conduct, actions, statements and other actions may be causing anxieties for the poster. This is generally the whole mode of operation for these high-conflict parents to do and cause this anxiety. They thrive on it. Feeding it can only often drive more conflict.
Originally posted by Mess
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Thank-you for your observation. I do respect your opinions. Hopefully I have provided a more tangible perspective around my responses in this.
Honestly, I hope that the matters regarding this thread are resolved by the proper authorities and qualified individuals. Having to deal with a high-conflict parent is a major challenge for any litigant.
Good Luck!
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