Top o' the morning to you.
I'm seeking some advice on how to properly address some concerns I have regarding my ex's attempts to make school a negative experience for D5 once again this year. It seems she's taken it up a notch.
To begin, D5 is dropped off at school by my g/f, my mother or myself it is always on time (allowing her time to play on the structure with he friends) and the transition is healthy. D5's always laughing and smiling. However, when ex drops her off I learned at the parent teacher conference that D5 becomes anxious and inconsolable. The teacher even stated that he had to call my ex later in the day to let her know she had calmed.
Last week we found out that D5 was coming in at lunchtime with ex on her time. D5 said that she stayed up really late with mommy and she didnt want her to be crabby. Yesterday we picked D5 up from school and her eyes were tired and bloodshot once again. D5 said that she stayed up late again that "mommy doesn't want me to go to school" and that she cried again at drop off. She says y ex lingers in the doorway. My guess is that my ex wants to say "ever since 50/50.....etc and may be saying certain things ... god I hope not.
I know that half of you may say it's very normal, but as a loving parent it hurts my heart to know that she only gets to play with her friends in the morning, is rested and doesn't cry at school on days that I drop her off.
D5 says that she doesn't sleep on her bed at ex's. Both her and my ex say they sleep together on the couch. D5 says its because mommy puts a lot of junk on her bed and she cant fit on it.
I'm not turning making this a huge deal or catastrophizing in any way .. just a concerned parent who wants the best experience possible for his daughter. I'm a psych guy ((have studied child development and every attachment theory out there) and work on the school board as well, but it's always easier with other people's kids Just looking for an outside opinion.
Thanks in advance,
LF32
I'm seeking some advice on how to properly address some concerns I have regarding my ex's attempts to make school a negative experience for D5 once again this year. It seems she's taken it up a notch.
To begin, D5 is dropped off at school by my g/f, my mother or myself it is always on time (allowing her time to play on the structure with he friends) and the transition is healthy. D5's always laughing and smiling. However, when ex drops her off I learned at the parent teacher conference that D5 becomes anxious and inconsolable. The teacher even stated that he had to call my ex later in the day to let her know she had calmed.
Last week we found out that D5 was coming in at lunchtime with ex on her time. D5 said that she stayed up really late with mommy and she didnt want her to be crabby. Yesterday we picked D5 up from school and her eyes were tired and bloodshot once again. D5 said that she stayed up late again that "mommy doesn't want me to go to school" and that she cried again at drop off. She says y ex lingers in the doorway. My guess is that my ex wants to say "ever since 50/50.....etc and may be saying certain things ... god I hope not.
I know that half of you may say it's very normal, but as a loving parent it hurts my heart to know that she only gets to play with her friends in the morning, is rested and doesn't cry at school on days that I drop her off.
D5 says that she doesn't sleep on her bed at ex's. Both her and my ex say they sleep together on the couch. D5 says its because mommy puts a lot of junk on her bed and she cant fit on it.
I'm not turning making this a huge deal or catastrophizing in any way .. just a concerned parent who wants the best experience possible for his daughter. I'm a psych guy ((have studied child development and every attachment theory out there) and work on the school board as well, but it's always easier with other people's kids Just looking for an outside opinion.
Thanks in advance,
LF32
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