Writing on behalf of my partner here:
He and his ex have recently signed an agreement to transition the children (3y and 4y) to 50/50 beginning end of July. The terms of this transition are outlined in the agreement beginning with 2 weekly overnights, then 3, then moving to a 2/2/3 schedule.
As part of the agreement, his ex negotiated for three separate vacations with the children including a 2-week vacation in March/April. During their email exchanges prior to the conference, she said she wanted this time to take them to Disney World. Since signing the agreement, she has now said she is taking the children to the Philippines with their nanny to visit the nanny's family.
My partner is not happy about this change in plans. In his view, this is not what he agreed to. The flight time is 17h both ways (direct) and there is a 13h time change. The 3y has night terrors which are exacerbated by over-tiredness. There is an active volcano in the region where they are staying (first activity in 43 years with warnings of an imminent eruption, evacuations have already taken place 40km south of where they plan to stay). This will also further disrupt the school and residential schedules when the kids return mid-week due to the time change.
The agreement stipulates she can have a vacation with the children during that time but it does not say where. She has requested a notarized consent form for overseas travel. Travel between Canada and the Philippines is carefully monitored so it is highly unlikely she would take the children without this form as there is a real risk of being turned away on arrival. He does not want to consent to this travel plan.
The agreement also provides for dispute resolution with a parenting coordinator (one they have already seen) who can mediate / arbitrate any issues.
Thoughts? Advice? What do you think a parenting coordinator would say?
Does anyone have any experience travelling with young children in this manner?
Appreciate your thoughts and feedback.
He and his ex have recently signed an agreement to transition the children (3y and 4y) to 50/50 beginning end of July. The terms of this transition are outlined in the agreement beginning with 2 weekly overnights, then 3, then moving to a 2/2/3 schedule.
As part of the agreement, his ex negotiated for three separate vacations with the children including a 2-week vacation in March/April. During their email exchanges prior to the conference, she said she wanted this time to take them to Disney World. Since signing the agreement, she has now said she is taking the children to the Philippines with their nanny to visit the nanny's family.
My partner is not happy about this change in plans. In his view, this is not what he agreed to. The flight time is 17h both ways (direct) and there is a 13h time change. The 3y has night terrors which are exacerbated by over-tiredness. There is an active volcano in the region where they are staying (first activity in 43 years with warnings of an imminent eruption, evacuations have already taken place 40km south of where they plan to stay). This will also further disrupt the school and residential schedules when the kids return mid-week due to the time change.
The agreement stipulates she can have a vacation with the children during that time but it does not say where. She has requested a notarized consent form for overseas travel. Travel between Canada and the Philippines is carefully monitored so it is highly unlikely she would take the children without this form as there is a real risk of being turned away on arrival. He does not want to consent to this travel plan.
The agreement also provides for dispute resolution with a parenting coordinator (one they have already seen) who can mediate / arbitrate any issues.
Thoughts? Advice? What do you think a parenting coordinator would say?
Does anyone have any experience travelling with young children in this manner?
Appreciate your thoughts and feedback.
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