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    If a parent has sole custody and the child is not doing well at all in school because the other parent is not doing any homework on the week with them, does the sole custody parent have the right, without a lawyer to revert back to the previous access?

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  • #2
    Is the access through a court order?

    Are you saying the other parent isn't doing homework with the child during that one week of the school year that he has access with the child?

    I read your previous posts. In May you were completing an agreement where Dad would see the child for 3 weeks per year. Has that changed?

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    • #3
      I'm almost hesitant to answer your question, because surely you recognize that homework alone does not govern "doing well at all in school".

      Exactly what is happening with the kidlet that is causing you concern?
      Start a discussion, not a fire. Post with kindness.

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      • #4
        If there is a court order or agreement that provides access, then you cannot unilaterally change that because your parenting style is different.

        If there is no court order or agreement that provides access, then you can change access because you heard a song that you didn't like on the radio or any other reason or no reason at all.

        Side point: Homework rarely correlates well with school success. If you have the vast majority of parenting time and kid is not doing well (and you feel the need to assign fault) it is more likely to be your fault.

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        • #5
          does the sole custody parent have the right, without a lawyer to revert back to the previous access?
          No. Access is not a custodial decision. If there is an Order setting out the access schedule then that is to be followed until a new Order is made. It should not be breached unless there are very good grounds to do so (grounds that would necessitate a CAS call).

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          • #6
            The "previous access" is confusing. What was previous access and how long ago did it change to week about?


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            • #7
              Originally posted by Berner_Faith View Post
              The "previous access" is confusing. What was previous access and how long ago did it change to week about?


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              She didn't say week about. She said on the week with them. According to the posts from just a few months ago Dad would have kid for 2 weeks in the summer and 1 week at Christmas. There is several hours travel between the parents.

              I have asked if that's changed.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by paris View Post
                She didn't say week about. She said on the week with them. According to the posts from just a few months ago Dad would have kid for 2 weeks in the summer and 1 week at Christmas. There is several hours travel between the parents.



                I have asked if that's changed.


                Well if dad only has them in the summer and a week at Christmas how is homework an issue? So obviously the schedule has changed if homework is now an issue


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                • #9
                  Going back through your other posts there are some issues I see.

                  1. Dad must be flying in to see kid on a different schedule. In this case, homework may not always be done and you could work with the school on this as kid only sees dad on limited time.

                  2. You moved away from dad and he agreed to a specific schedule to allow you to move. Refusing more time with him isnt really fair.

                  3. Like the others said, homework isnt always a true impact on school performance which should be investigated by you before cutting off access.

                  Bottom line, this is a flimsy excuse for adjusting access. Its only month two of school and as the sole custody parent you should be speaking with the school to see what is going on. I can't see a week with dad as causing serious issues at school unless kid was away all week, wasnt paying attention in class or was acting out at school. Even then that is more a behaviour issue that doesnt necessarily warrant cutting off access to their parent that they were forced to move away from.

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                  • #10
                    No you can't change access. My ex tried to reduce out of court expanded access and we threatend motion to maintain status quo.

                    Not doing homework won't cause them to do bad in school. You also can't assume time with dad is homework time. Child will soon enough lose interest in visiting his dad because visiting dad will equal to doing homeework.

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                    • #11
                      If the teacher is using the homework as a means to generate marks (bad idea but it happens) then it's quite possible that the child could be doing "badly" in school, which would actually be more of a meeting deadlines problem than an academic problem. You could preemptively talk to the teachers/school to try to arrange receiving homework/study materials ahead of time maybe. If the child is failing because dad won't study material for tests let's say, perhaps if the school knew the situation (dad has limited time) you could arrange to study ahead of his visits or do makeup assignments/tests to help improve grades.
                      I get your question, because it's no fun to watch the other parent not care about schoolwork. However, if dad only has this one week a month (we're still waiting to hear what your access agreement is) its highly unlikely that the child failing can all be attributed to his week.


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                      • #12
                        First thing...homework=kids responsibility to get this done. If kid is telling dad no home work to do because kid does not want to do them then how is this dads fault? If kid is telling you that dad said no to doing home work, it might be Kid be playing parents.

                        The old mom said no, go ask dad kind of deal.

                        What information do you send to dad about homework?

                        Teachers give lots of time to study and for projects. I have 3 kids, grade, 3, 10, and 12. Homework was never the issue with not doing well in school...it was kids motivation in class, from liking to teacher, the subject to understanding the subject.

                        FYI new school year new teacher....ask kid if they like their teacher!

                        Your solution is to cut kid off of dad and punish both...if kid is not wanting to do homework might be because kid wants to spend all time with dad because it is limited.

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