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    OK common law situation under 4 years I bought a house before I met her she moved in I payed everything but groceries, she payed for her car and insurance. We spit up up officially at the end of august. we had an agreement we both signed not witnessed or notorized, basically I would help her for up to 3 years with school and such or until she was able to get on her feet, she was to pay me rent every month, if she decided to leave she would take my old car and some other things. she never paid the rent I gave her money for school

    A few days after we broke up I woke up with her at the end of the bed talking about suicide and how I should feel guilty, I recorded it. She called my father at 3am harassing him, when she was looking for an apartment she wanted my parents company to write a letter saying she was working for them so she could get the apartment. I recorded it

    She meets new man a couple weeks after we broke up now she wants to move in with him they are getting an apartment on Nov 1st, I sign the car over to her ..the next day she goes to court and gets an Exclusive Possession order, I haven't been served yet.

    What do I do .. we have no kids she lost her job because she was chasing this guy around and she was on 3 month probation at work so they canned her. also does any one know a good lawyer in London Ont.?

    how can I stay in my house.? how long after I have to leave will it take for me to get back in.? and how do I get her out of my life?
    Last edited by Derickma; 10-11-2010, 09:26 AM. Reason: more info

  • #2
    More info we have no kids, no joint bank accounts, the mortgage is all in my name , I also noticed she's selling jewelery I gave her and she gave back to me on Kijiji

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    • #3
      Originally posted by Derickma View Post
      ..the next day she goes to court and gets an Exclusive Possession order, I haven't been served yet.
      She got, or wants, an exclusive possession order on your home? And you haven't been served yet?

      Unless the circumstances are very extreme I fail to see how she could be granted exclusive possession of the home and you even didn't get to appear in court.

      Please clarify in plain (non abbreviated point form type) language what really happened.

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      • #4
        did she tell you that she filed for exclusive possession?? If so remember her state of mind, she wanted your father to lie so she could get a place, the talking of suicide etc. She could be lying about it to try and get more out of it. If she is moving in with the new guy into an apartment then why does she need your house? Do not leave your house unless court ordered. She is/has been playing you for a sucker and wants to see what else she can get out of you.

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        • #5
          One of her Friends told me " she went to the court house to get exclusive rites to the house until she moves" I'm guessing that means she went to the family law center and said I was abusing her " typical" she has no proof because nothing ever happened. I'm assuming her friend means exclusive possesion order

          I'm new to all this but can she go to court get an order and have me served and the police escort me out without be able to defend against her accusations, when I'm the sole owner of the house.? what I'm asking basicly what the process is..I know I'm not great at explaining but I'm in sort of a panic..thanks for the reply though

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          • #6
            I think they would have a difficult time with an exclusive possession order considering there are no children, the relationship was short and common law. I'm with Sots, I think she is playing you like a Wii.

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            • #7
              so she can't just go to court and say I abuse her and they kick me out without having a say or chance to defend myself.. all her things are packed by the front door in boxes she is barley here during the week, when she is I stay in my room her in hers. I'm just waiting this out ..or should I be doing something.?

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              • #8
                how do I stop her from coming back after she's out of the house.?

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                • #9
                  Change the locks once they are out.

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                  • #10
                    I would protect myself by ensuring that you have witnesses anytime you are near her, or at the very least have a recorder going anytime she comes near you.

                    Change your locks, and if she comes by, go someplace else. Do not talk with her.

                    It is possible for her to get an exclusive possession order if she says the right things, and the judge believes her. It is possible that you can have your who day ruined by such an order.

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                    • #11
                      you must file right away with the court to have her out, do not wait, you cannot put her out unless the court does so. The police will tell her that she has a right to the house. This happened to me, she also filed criminal charge and got me out of the house for 3 months until the court kick her out. That is when she empty the whole house. Kick her out now with the court!!!!

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                      • #12
                        Do not change the lock buddy, go and file a motion to get her out right away.

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                        • #13
                          OK an update her and her Friends were cleaning me out I called the cops they took off I changed the locks that night ..cops tell her to call them when she wants to pick her stuff up ..next day she comes back key doesn't work I'm at home I call the caps tell them she's here ..while I'm waiting for the cops I get served with papers .. she thought because I was served she could walk in and clean me out.. I tell the cops when they get to the house that she can take her belongings and a bedroom set anything else is up to the court.

                          Court date comes My lawyer talks to her and her duty council in the hallway..she agrees to drop possession of the house restraining order for the couch dining room table and a play station 3 .. I was going to give her the couch and table to begin with ..well before she served me.. she signs the paper and my lawyer signs on my behalf...done deal right.??? WRONG

                          Thursday her new BF showed up at my work to serve me papers ..she's now claiming that her duty council wasn't present when she signed a my lawyer talked her into it ..she's claiming that she thought she was going to get some things now and the rest would be decided in court later.. now I have to get a new lawyer because my old lawyer is essentially a witness...

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                          • #14
                            You're letting her drama queen you.

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                            • #15
                              how am I supposed to stop her exactly.? I have to show up to court to defend myself ..may lawyer said her license is on the line now because of her accusations ..she has no proof of anything and it's lane to see she's wasting the courts time..

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