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  • #16
    Originally posted by drunkmunky View Post
    I have agreed to give back the vehicle once I am employed. I still require the vehicle for my studies as I am living with my parents, and school is 2 hours away.

    Thanks for all of your comments. I hope that I can continue to resolve this development in a calm and rightful manor.
    does she agree with this?? How long to complete them?? Maybe you should think of getting a part time job or ask your parents to buy the car from her and then you can pay your parents back later when you are able to??

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    • #17
      Mom4ever

      Originally posted by momforever1956 View Post
      Well, Well, WEll,,, I am looking forward to Blink to comment on this post. You lived together for 2.5years, sounds like she basically supported you,,,you paid no rent, she gave you a car, she paid your credit card,she paid your lawyer,,, then you cheated on her with escorts, ( real classy and dangerous) and now you are asking about spousal support???
      If she were abusive like my x was--then you should have left like a big boy instead of living off the fat of the land-----sounds like she kicked you out----and are you surprised?
      Blink feels like after 28.5 years of marriage I am not entitled--I wonder what words of wisdom she is going to have for you.
      I am not very supportive of dentists, I was married to one,,,, I dont know if sickos choose dentistry or dentistry makes them sickos but whatever the case ,divorce, suicide and mental illness seem to be a common thread, that being said---SHE OWES YOU NOTHING,, SOUNDS LIKE YOU OWE HER.
      I really don't get you lady. What is up with the targeted abuse to Blink? As you can see Blink has been a member regularly contributing here far longer than you or I have. Whether you like her style or no, I embrace it. We are talking about legal stuff here. All the niceness and soft mushy crap about sugar coating messages etc is 10000000% irrelevant. Blink says it like it is. If you prefer someone to give you a mealy mouthed opinion, get a lawyer to charge you over a grand for the consult and at least $250 per hour thereafter.
      On this forum, we need all the contributors we can get. If Blink is wrong, cool, call he on it. Otherwise, please dont be a flamer.

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      • #18
        Originally posted by drunkmunky View Post
        I have agreed to give back the vehicle once I am employed. I still require the vehicle for my studies as I am living with my parents, and school is 2 hours away.

        Thanks for all of your comments. I hope that I can continue to resolve this development in a calm and rightful manor.
        I think you want to sever all ties with her as soon as possible, so I would recommend doing what you can to get the car back to her.

        But since as a result of this gift of a car you sold yours, maybe you can ask for that amount back from her before you give the car back or something? This would hopefully give you enough money to buy a new car.

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        • #19
          Originally posted by FaithandMorals View Post
          I really don't get you lady. What is up with the targeted abuse to Blink? As you can see Blink has been a member regularly contributing here far longer than you or I have. Whether you like her style or no, I embrace it. We are talking about legal stuff here. All the niceness and soft mushy crap about sugar coating messages etc is 10000000% irrelevant. Blink says it like it is. If you prefer someone to give you a mealy mouthed opinion, get a lawyer to charge you over a grand for the consult and at least $250 per hour thereafter.
          On this forum, we need all the contributors we can get. If Blink is wrong, cool, call he on it. Otherwise, please dont be a flamer.
          My issue is not with any legal opinions or comments, but instead judgements without knowledge of specifics. When there is such anger and bitterness because of my persuing honesty and fairness---its just an angry nasty person who is jealous. I am laughing because the poster was curious about SS in a common law relationship of less than 3 years and I was married for over 28 years and Blink questions my SS. As for lawyers ,, I have one of the top Family Lawyers in Toronto, who has served me well and I do not regret one cent I have spent--and there have been many cents, many dollars, many thousands--all worth it for justice and fairness.... Just as Blink is entitled to her opinion--so am I--so whomever you are----keep ur judgemental opinions to yourself---I have not sworn or said anything on any post that is untrue.

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          • #20
            Originally posted by momforever1956 View Post
            My issue is not with any legal opinions or comments, but instead judgements without knowledge of specifics. When there is such anger and bitterness because of my persuing honesty and fairness---its just an angry nasty person who is jealous. I am laughing because the poster was curious about SS in a common law relationship of less than 3 years and I was married for over 28 years and Blink questions my SS. As for lawyers ,, I have one of the top Family Lawyers in Toronto, who has served me well and I do not regret one cent of his money I have spent--and there have been many cents, many dollars, many thousands--all worth it for justice and fairness.... Just as Blink is entitled to her opinion--so am I--so whomever you are----keep ur judgemental opinions to yourself---I have not sworn or said anything on any post that is untrue.
            Fixed that for you.

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            • #21
              Oh thanks BlinK, your so sweet--maybe if you had some of HIS money you wouldnt be such a miserable................................

              And I do enjoy spending HIS money--too bad the legal system sees it as MINE!!!!! and too bad for you---want some???

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              • #22
                Blink, I admit I took a few out and made it through this thred...... I am in no position to understand or make comment but I really did like your post - it lifted 50 pounds off my chest - and my first good smile in days!

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                • #23
                  Originally posted by momforever1956 View Post
                  Oh thanks BlinK, your so sweet--maybe if you had some of HIS money you wouldnt be such a miserable................................

                  And I do enjoy spending HIS money--too bad the legal system sees it as MINE!!!!! and too bad for you---want some???
                  I don't need his money or anyone else's, I actually *gasp!* work for my own. Foreign concept to you, I know, but you should try it some time and see how it feels. Perhaps then you'd develop a sense of pride and self-respect rather than spending all your time trying to make the world think you're awesome because you've got most of his money. Eventually the money will run out and all the people you've disgusted with your behaviour won't have the time or interest to extend even any pity your way.

                  You'll be broke and alone and still ridiculously trashy. Let's see how smug you are then, hmm?

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                  • #24
                    I'm not sure as to how relevant your situation is to mine but I thank you all for the comments.

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                    • #25
                      Hmmm

                      Drunky:

                      I'm curious here. If you don't have any means of financial support..how on earth did you afford the escorts? Aren't they pricey? Frankly, if I was supporting you and you were spending my hard earned cash on hookers, I'd throw something at you too.

                      When I was in University, I worked...for some time, I worked two jobs. My kid just graduated but she did the same thing while getting her degree, I insisted upon it. I've worked with plenty of people who worked full-time, had families, and went back to get their master degrees too.

                      Why can't you work?

                      It sounds like you both had issues during this relationship. She (may) have had anger issues (probably because she was supporting you) and you had sexual deviance issues.

                      I would chalk it up to a life lesson, give her back her toys (ie, the car), grab your bong and move along. Be fair, as it sounds you're trying to do and make a payment plan for what you owe her because unless you signed something for the loans, she probably isn't going to sue you. If she does, you can show the emails where you made her reasonable offers to pay her back. The small claims court would probably simply enforce those same offers.

                      You're grown...get your own car and you really need to see about modifying your school lifestyle so you can get some kind of employment because the reality is that there's going to be shortage of dentists willing to let you live off of them.

                      Good luck!

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                      • #26
                        I have agreed to give back the vehicle once I am employed. I still require the vehicle for my studies as I am living with my parents, and school is 2 hours away.
                        Does this sound reasonable to you? You want to use her vehicle everyday for a long drive then return it to her (so she can get it repaired since if i were her, I'd doubt you were paying for maintenance and upkeep).

                        I think you need to think about how you'd feel if the shoe was on the other foot here. There must be some other solution here so that you can give her back the vehicle which sounds fair and figure out another way to school.
                        Last edited by Pursuinghappiness; 03-05-2012, 12:30 PM.

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                        • #27
                          Originally posted by drunkmunky View Post
                          I have agreed to give back the vehicle once I am employed. I still require the vehicle for my studies as I am living with my parents, and school is 2 hours away.

                          Thanks for all of your comments. I hope that I can continue to resolve this development in a calm and rightful manor.
                          You're living with your parents. Get her back HER car and have your parents help you out. She's not your mommy.

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