I appreciate all the feedback.
I tried not to get involved for the first few months of our relationship. But, at that time she was bullying him into babysitting every single night of the week at her home and he was too afraid to say 'no'. That is when I did some digging and discovered that he had never responded to any of her motions and was facing imprisonment by FRO for not paying support. He couldn't afford the income imputed so simply didn't pay. My partner is very anti-establishment and really did not want to participate in the court process. he thought that by giving into his ex's demands, she would eventually withdraw motions. Well it didn't work that way and she became more of a monster than ever before.
These two were never married. He only knew her a few months before she got knocked up. He wanted the kid, she didn't. He made her lots of promises to support her financially if she had the kid, but was unable to follow through.
I am not sure if she knows who is writing the emails. We can tell when she writes her emails or when her boyfriend writes them for her.
I am heavily invested in this in more ways than one. I have been paying all legal fees (rather, lending him money from a line of credit) because he doesn't qualify for legal aid but has no money. I am a single mom of 2 young children and my ex doesn't always pay his child support so I am running deeply into debt, which adds a new layer of stress. I recently took several weeks sick leave from work to manage the stress because I lost 30 lbs over 2 months and my hair began to fall out. I would love nothing more than to run away from this all, disengage from it all, but I am scared that if I do not stay involved, he will lose the battle.
I know that this sounds insane. I am not sure how I got to this place, why I am here or what to do next. It is impossible to be in this relationship and not be involved. I wish there was an easy answer.
I tried not to get involved for the first few months of our relationship. But, at that time she was bullying him into babysitting every single night of the week at her home and he was too afraid to say 'no'. That is when I did some digging and discovered that he had never responded to any of her motions and was facing imprisonment by FRO for not paying support. He couldn't afford the income imputed so simply didn't pay. My partner is very anti-establishment and really did not want to participate in the court process. he thought that by giving into his ex's demands, she would eventually withdraw motions. Well it didn't work that way and she became more of a monster than ever before.
These two were never married. He only knew her a few months before she got knocked up. He wanted the kid, she didn't. He made her lots of promises to support her financially if she had the kid, but was unable to follow through.
I am not sure if she knows who is writing the emails. We can tell when she writes her emails or when her boyfriend writes them for her.
I am heavily invested in this in more ways than one. I have been paying all legal fees (rather, lending him money from a line of credit) because he doesn't qualify for legal aid but has no money. I am a single mom of 2 young children and my ex doesn't always pay his child support so I am running deeply into debt, which adds a new layer of stress. I recently took several weeks sick leave from work to manage the stress because I lost 30 lbs over 2 months and my hair began to fall out. I would love nothing more than to run away from this all, disengage from it all, but I am scared that if I do not stay involved, he will lose the battle.
I know that this sounds insane. I am not sure how I got to this place, why I am here or what to do next. It is impossible to be in this relationship and not be involved. I wish there was an easy answer.
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