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Old 12-29-2010, 09:55 AM
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PS, I would not push so hard on the woe is my disabled self card, because the courts have swapped custody in the past for precisely that argument. The process is, if you are so disabled as to be unable to provide for yourself, how do you propose to care for your child?
As my friend from the East region says... It's a double edge sword.
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Old 12-29-2010, 10:26 PM
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I must agree with one of the posters and that is, he is likely making more as he did comment to me that he has to pay Revenue Canada this past season so that means he made more money. He was always gone and ended up working a lot of hours and yet when I ask for 35.00 for his son to have dental work and believe me I did not have it, he said NO. So I will follow advise and do letter and the motion to Compel and go from their,

As for those who said that I must be able to work if I can move a mouse. Yes I guess for about an hour a day I can work. So far my testing has proven that my ability to work is so very limited. No sitting on my butt does not work either as I most of you will never understand the many limitations I have.
As for my child.....he is well cared for in my home by me.....When ones needs to learn to adapt things they adapt....I can challenge many of you to manage what I have to manage,,,,,work yes I loved my work......I would give anything to go back to work.....but not one doctor will release me,....and no one will hire me.......I refuse to tell what the issues are as they are not for anyone to know.....this is not suppose to be personal but some seem to think that advise is a personal attack.
I guess you are not the kind of people I would take advise from. LV yes you give wonderful advise. Then their are several others, but those that make the wise cracks about working,,,,,the next time you hurt your back, or have pneumonia and are laying on the couch and just can not get up....well get up off of your lazy parts and make dinner and take care of your child as I do it all the time....sick or not it is my child and since his Father is absent minded and absent in all other ways,.,,choses not to even call his son on Christmas day please do not critisize me for what I am Able to do and NOT Able to do. Just give your ADvise and keep YOUR Wise cracks for someone who might appreciate them. I came to this forum for intelligence not nonsense.

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Old 12-29-2010, 10:44 PM
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If you are going to cherry pick the background information that you provide and then furthermore cherry pick the good vs bad advice you get here, then be aware that you are not presenting in a rational manner.

It's a public forum. You are going to run into all manner of responses.

If you are going to take cover with statements like "I refuse to tell what the issues are as they are not for anyone to know", and then continue on about the challenges you are facing and overcoming, then you are also inviting questions about that disability.

You are sucking and blowing at the same time.
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You are sucking and blowing at the same time.
LOL, that`s a hard talent to master....lol
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Lot's o' practice
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,,,,,the next time you hurt your back, or have pneumonia and are laying on the couch and just can not get up....well get up off of your lazy parts and make dinner and take care of your child as I do it all the time....
Been there, done that as have many many many others in your position. I even got off my 'lazy parts' and held down a full time job as many many many others have. People do it all the time, everyday with a hurt back or pneumonia, broken bones, MS, cancer and worse. You're just as special as everyone else. They just do it because it's their responsibility, just like supporting themselves and their children is also their responsibility.

Unless your ex is responsible for your current condition - which I highly doubt he is - why on earth should he be forced to compensate you for it??

You can supposedly 'adapt' to get up and take care of your kid properly but can't 'adapt' to get up and support your kid financially. I have never heard of the government being able to ban someone from working due to a medical condition. Do they throw you in jail if you happen to take a job answering phones, typing or walking dogs? Or is it just that any money you make comes off your disability cheque? Because that's a far cry from 'the government won't allow me to work'. Woe is you, indeed.
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I must agree with one of the posters and that is, he is likely making more as he did comment to me that he has to pay Revenue Canada this past season so that means he made more money.
I must agree that your logic here is whacked. Get a grip. You have no idea what you're talking about.
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I don't think it's even remotely proper, sensible or logical that one person should be the permanent disability insurance for another person.

If you had never married then where would you be right now? On ODSP. Because you got married, your ex is your disability insurance and even if you qualified for ODSP it would be clawed back from your support payments. When if fact at minimum it should be the reverse: If you legitimately can't work, then society should have a system in place for you, and MAYBE your ex should top that up for a few years.
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totally agree with Mess
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