Hi everyone,
Ex approached me in September about our son trying a new sport this year. Son is currently in house league hockey and has been for 6 years. He loves it and wants to continue for the foreseeable future. This new sport would be a house league one too, with many schedule conflicts (almost every weekend it conflicts with hockey and it is scheduled right during our daughter’s sport too). I told him I didn’t agree for various reasons (I have 3 kids all with Saturday/Sunday sports already, we are at our max budget for sports, kid is on an IEP and needs time in his weekend to work on school things, etc). As well, a very specific sports budget was agreed upon which covered the certain sports that have been status quo for years.
Ex decides that he’s registering our son anyway and has stopped paying daycare now to recoup the fees he’s out because I refused to pay for this sport I don’t agree to.
Although my son is interested in this new sport, he also does not want to play it during fall/winter because it will interfere with hockey. This weekend alone his dad is making him miss a practice, his team photos, a game and a fundraising/team building activity.
My son and I took time together and researched spring leagues of this sport and found suitable ones. Ex won’t hear it and says he’s playing the new sport on his time and won’t support hockey anymore on his parenting time because I won’t agree to the new sport.
My son is afraid to talk to him because he “gets in trouble” when he speaks up. I feel horrible for my child and don’t know what to do. He’s 12 but isn’t good at standing up for himself.
I feel like the general consensus in advice on here will be - his parenting time, his choice. I’m just wondering if anyone has been in this boat and what can be done about it?
The agreement doesn’t order either of us to do the sports but is specific about which sports are on the “mutually agreed upon” list.
Advice please.
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Ex approached me in September about our son trying a new sport this year. Son is currently in house league hockey and has been for 6 years. He loves it and wants to continue for the foreseeable future. This new sport would be a house league one too, with many schedule conflicts (almost every weekend it conflicts with hockey and it is scheduled right during our daughter’s sport too). I told him I didn’t agree for various reasons (I have 3 kids all with Saturday/Sunday sports already, we are at our max budget for sports, kid is on an IEP and needs time in his weekend to work on school things, etc). As well, a very specific sports budget was agreed upon which covered the certain sports that have been status quo for years.
Ex decides that he’s registering our son anyway and has stopped paying daycare now to recoup the fees he’s out because I refused to pay for this sport I don’t agree to.
Although my son is interested in this new sport, he also does not want to play it during fall/winter because it will interfere with hockey. This weekend alone his dad is making him miss a practice, his team photos, a game and a fundraising/team building activity.
My son and I took time together and researched spring leagues of this sport and found suitable ones. Ex won’t hear it and says he’s playing the new sport on his time and won’t support hockey anymore on his parenting time because I won’t agree to the new sport.
My son is afraid to talk to him because he “gets in trouble” when he speaks up. I feel horrible for my child and don’t know what to do. He’s 12 but isn’t good at standing up for himself.
I feel like the general consensus in advice on here will be - his parenting time, his choice. I’m just wondering if anyone has been in this boat and what can be done about it?
The agreement doesn’t order either of us to do the sports but is specific about which sports are on the “mutually agreed upon” list.
Advice please.
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