My exes use of cannabis and alcohol were problematic during our marriage.
While he does not drink and drive (he was convicted of it twice in his 20s and learned his lesson he says). He routinely used cannabis and drove. Sometimes he was really high.
On more than one occasion I refused to let him drive because he'd been smoking weed all morning or evening before we went out.
He's a regular weed smoker- about 2-3x a day. Mostly after work- but if not working, as soon as he gets up, etc. As it didn't really affect his daily functioning- we tried to work on it. Like most problematic drinkers/users- it cycled. He said he would cut down to only weekends, then just once a day- then he just went back to his regular habits.
One of the things he would rip into me for was because I would not let him drive us if we were going somewhere with D2 and he had smoked. He would want to drive and I would refuse.
To the OCL- he swore he does not smoke weed anymore- as he doesn't have the stressors in his life that caused him to overindulge (that would be me).
The problem? Weed is legal. In general- I don't have an issue with it. It's like alcohol to me. So just because he uses it- no big deal. It's the fact that substances- have been problematic in his life.
I truly believe he is full of shit when he says he doesn't smoke anymore. He's a binge alcoholic and he admits he has an addictive personality issues which is why he never tried anything harder than mushrooms.
I just don't want him getting high when he has D2 in his care. Or drive with her.
Even when we move to unsupervised- I'm probably going to use a neutral third party to help facilitate exchanges (e.g. pick up from school, from his moms house, etc etc), so I won't always be able to see him or see what he looks like, etc. Right now- his sister does the driving. Plus you can't always tell when someone has smoked weed.
I'm also concerned with him smoking weed around D2. There's been a couple of time (3x to be exact)- where's he dropped lighters or a zippo in her crib and I found her playing with it, or left it on the bed with her sleeping there.
I don't know what to do....
Ask for a drug test? closed and the results to be inadmissible in court? If he has stopped as he claims- shouldn't this be a non-issue?
If I suspect he's high- call the police?
Throw up some prayer hands and hope everything is okay?
While he does not drink and drive (he was convicted of it twice in his 20s and learned his lesson he says). He routinely used cannabis and drove. Sometimes he was really high.
On more than one occasion I refused to let him drive because he'd been smoking weed all morning or evening before we went out.
He's a regular weed smoker- about 2-3x a day. Mostly after work- but if not working, as soon as he gets up, etc. As it didn't really affect his daily functioning- we tried to work on it. Like most problematic drinkers/users- it cycled. He said he would cut down to only weekends, then just once a day- then he just went back to his regular habits.
One of the things he would rip into me for was because I would not let him drive us if we were going somewhere with D2 and he had smoked. He would want to drive and I would refuse.
To the OCL- he swore he does not smoke weed anymore- as he doesn't have the stressors in his life that caused him to overindulge (that would be me).
The problem? Weed is legal. In general- I don't have an issue with it. It's like alcohol to me. So just because he uses it- no big deal. It's the fact that substances- have been problematic in his life.
I truly believe he is full of shit when he says he doesn't smoke anymore. He's a binge alcoholic and he admits he has an addictive personality issues which is why he never tried anything harder than mushrooms.
I just don't want him getting high when he has D2 in his care. Or drive with her.
Even when we move to unsupervised- I'm probably going to use a neutral third party to help facilitate exchanges (e.g. pick up from school, from his moms house, etc etc), so I won't always be able to see him or see what he looks like, etc. Right now- his sister does the driving. Plus you can't always tell when someone has smoked weed.
I'm also concerned with him smoking weed around D2. There's been a couple of time (3x to be exact)- where's he dropped lighters or a zippo in her crib and I found her playing with it, or left it on the bed with her sleeping there.
I don't know what to do....
Ask for a drug test? closed and the results to be inadmissible in court? If he has stopped as he claims- shouldn't this be a non-issue?
If I suspect he's high- call the police?
Throw up some prayer hands and hope everything is okay?
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