For the Catholics and regular church-goers out there -
We're Catholic. The boys have been raised in the Catholic church. Always attended mass every Sunday, received all the sacraments, attended Catholic school etc. Stbx was not a church-goer growing up (just Christmas and Easter) but he is a baptized Catholic and we agreed to raise them to make church a part of their regular routine.
Stbx had the boys this Easter weekend. They came home late yesterday morning so we went to the latest mass I could find (not our own parish).
Apparently they did not attend church on Good Friday and have been missing Sundays when they are with the ex. Being teens they would obviously prefer sleeping in on Sundays - I know I did when I was their age. But they attend church when they are with me and have never complained.
I'm not sure what to do about this or if there is anything I can do. I've talked to the boys about the importance of attending mass and that skipping on their dad's weekend really isn't an option. For them to have skipped Good Friday bothers me so much. It truly breaks my heart to think that all the years of faith and teachings are being thrown to the side because he's left the church. I really feel this is something I need to address with him but I'm not sure how. (keep in mind he's high conflict - NPD)
Legally - we have joint custody. I thought that decisions regarding education and religion etc were to be made jointly. It seems he is unilaterally making a change to their religious education (because it's easier for him) that is quite different from the way we agreed to raise them.
I know they are teenagers. They can make decisions for themselves or at least have an impact on the decisions. If they were both against attending mass with me and had arguments to no longer be Catholics I would agree to listen to that. But that's just not the case here. He just can't be bothered taking them so they don't go.
Advice is welcome!
We're Catholic. The boys have been raised in the Catholic church. Always attended mass every Sunday, received all the sacraments, attended Catholic school etc. Stbx was not a church-goer growing up (just Christmas and Easter) but he is a baptized Catholic and we agreed to raise them to make church a part of their regular routine.
Stbx had the boys this Easter weekend. They came home late yesterday morning so we went to the latest mass I could find (not our own parish).
Apparently they did not attend church on Good Friday and have been missing Sundays when they are with the ex. Being teens they would obviously prefer sleeping in on Sundays - I know I did when I was their age. But they attend church when they are with me and have never complained.
I'm not sure what to do about this or if there is anything I can do. I've talked to the boys about the importance of attending mass and that skipping on their dad's weekend really isn't an option. For them to have skipped Good Friday bothers me so much. It truly breaks my heart to think that all the years of faith and teachings are being thrown to the side because he's left the church. I really feel this is something I need to address with him but I'm not sure how. (keep in mind he's high conflict - NPD)
Legally - we have joint custody. I thought that decisions regarding education and religion etc were to be made jointly. It seems he is unilaterally making a change to their religious education (because it's easier for him) that is quite different from the way we agreed to raise them.
I know they are teenagers. They can make decisions for themselves or at least have an impact on the decisions. If they were both against attending mass with me and had arguments to no longer be Catholics I would agree to listen to that. But that's just not the case here. He just can't be bothered taking them so they don't go.
Advice is welcome!
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